“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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What's up guys.

Boy oh boy, it sure has been a while. Just wanted to check in with you guys and let you know that I haven't forgotten about the community here and that no, my FR thread isn't just dropping away to oblivion like so many other FR threads have within the first week of their creation.

So: What's happened with the ladies since my last post?
A: Absolutely nothing. Zero.

But I'm gonna say something here. Never have I been happier in my life. I am working my fwcking ass off at college. I've basically quit social life. My goals are so goddamn important to me that I think about them constantly. I want to become rich, not just that, but I want to achieve, so fwcking bad. Every minute I spent in a social setting, I just kept thinking, "I could be working right now, I could be working right now."

Something happened to me. I was known in high school as the smart kid who was lazy as sh!t. Now my roommates think of me as an incredibly disciplined person. I've been going to bed at 9 pm (except for today, there's another reason for that), lifting outside of team lifting, doing yoga four times a week, eating incredibly healthy, sticking with my budget like crazy (I'm on pace to spend only about $120 total this month on food), studying like a maniac and staying extremely organized.

Here's to put things in perspective. I'm pursuing a double major. Except the majors are in different colleges at my university, so it's called a dual degree. I am also pursuing two other minors, as well as a certificate in entrepreneurship. It's gonna be a sh!tload of work. Oh, and on a 3 year plan. Next semester I am registered for 21 credit hours. At our school, 12 is the minimum for a full-time student, and 18 is the maximum. I had to get special permission to overload. Add on to this that to keep my athletic scholarship, I am required to attend our practices 2 hours a day, 5 times a week, and conditioning/lifting another hour 5 times a week.

You know how the DJ Bible teaches to not make women your first priority? Well, I've known that since I've been on this site, but it's never actually come true for me. I could have been dedicating all my time to studying and working out, but I knew it was all for women in the end. This time, I just know it's different.

Last weekend my roommates through a huge party at our place with tons of hot chicks. Instead of going to the party at my own place , I went somewhere where I could study and go to bed early and wake up early the next morning.

I know I can honestly say my ultimate cause isn't for women now. I want to achieve my goals so fwcking bad. I'm constantly thinking about them. Before, I would always be thinking about girls, how should I talk to them, girls that I liked, etc. Well now, I hardly ever think about it. If I see a girl on the street, I'll try to make eye contact and say hi. But outside of that, I honestly don't think about it anymore.

I knowthis change is for keeps now.

I'm more confident than I have ever been my entire life. This confidence is derived through the passion for which I have for life and my goals. I'm not miserably beating myself up either; I have my teammates, who are awesome and I have a great time with, usually while we are hard at work at practice, lifting, or conditioning.

Every time I do something that's not studying or working my part-time job of online tutoring, I think about the opportunity cost of doing something fun as opposed to productive. I'm completely sure of myself in any situation for one reason--because I face these challenges on a daily basis, and I have first-hand observed my own toughness in the face of these challenges.

My view on girls is finally what it should be--a side consideration, a mere escape to my real ambitions in the world.

Am I giving up on women? Hell no. Am I giving up on them in the present? Maybe. More accurately, my efforts at pursuing girls have really just been displaced by my desire to achieve in terms of emotional attachment. When I happen to be sitting next to a girl who is actually attractive in a class (NOT often at my school), I'll talk to her and flirt with her, without even caring what happens. Sounds like I should be pulling regularly if this attitude is indeed the one I have.

So does thinking about this disprove itself? No, because I only realized it yesterday when my roommates were talking about how fwcking hard it is to get girls at our school, and how they were gonna look for tips online and I suddenly thought, "Wow, I haven't been on sosuave in forever." Then another thought occurred to me, "Wow, I haven't even thought about trying to get girls or gaming forever."

In this whole process, too, I've realized my standards for myself and my peers have skyrocketed. I'm quick to call out bullsh!t when I see it, something that used to be uncharacteristic of me.

My whole philosophy on "gaming" has changed too. I used to always try to do c&f, insert push&pull at the right time, try to use certain routines to build rapport, plan out how I was gonna make advances, etc. Now, I've (almost) completely thrown it all out the window. For some reason, I just consider myself an alpha male, and try to do whatever feels natural because I just have this gut feeling that the person I am is masculine and attractive.

For the first time, I know that what I've learned in the DJ Bible applies to me, at my very core. I am no longer fronting. You could honestly take all the women out of the world and the course of my life would not change at all. Yes, I would care, because that sure would suck, but it wouldn't change my goals in any way.

I've been keeping my drive high. Those who understand Maslowe's hierarchy of needs know that the most important drives, at the base of the pyramid, are the basic needs such as sex and food. I've been keeping myself hungry in both areas, s that my drive is constantly high. Sexual transmutation works wonders. Staying hungry as multiple benefits for me, since I am trying to lose weight to be quicker, eat less to save money, and stay hungry to keep my physical drive high.

I am so dedicated to my goals, so sure of them that I honestly don't see how I could possibly fail achieving them. I jokingly tell my roommates all the time how badly I want to be rich, but I'm not really joking. It is always on my mind.
 

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Woah dude!
First off i wanna say what your doing is cool and being rich would be wonderful. But you need to think about what your wanting from life. Sure having alot of money would be nice but if you cant enjoy it really what is the point.

I went through a phase like this also where i decided that all i wanted to do was work. But then i realized that I wasnt enjoying myself at this moment. Sure you can think about the future fun your gonna have and the future richness and that can be achieved with having a good time right now.

University is supposed to be the best time of your life is it not? and if you waste it away studying the entire time then when are you going to enjoy?

Now im not saying that you should drop everything and party until you fail and everything is ruined. But enjoy the times you have now because you wont ever get that chance again. You gotta have everything in moderation.

Once you get laid you'll understand.
I'm saying this because i went through the same thing and this is what i took out of it. You gotta enjoy your life now because you wont ever have these opportunities again.
 

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eastcoast15 said:
Woah dude!
First off i wanna say what your doing is cool and being rich would be wonderful. But you need to think about what your wanting from life. Sure having alot of money would be nice but if you cant enjoy it really what is the point.

I went through a phase like this also where i decided that all i wanted to do was work. But then i realized that I wasnt enjoying myself at this moment. Sure you can think about the future fun your gonna have and the future richness and that can be achieved with having a good time right now.

University is supposed to be the best time of your life is it not? and if you waste it away studying the entire time then when are you going to enjoy?

Now im not saying that you should drop everything and party until you fail and everything is ruined. But enjoy the times you have now because you wont ever get that chance again. You gotta have everything in moderation.

Once you get laid you'll understand.
I'm saying this because i went through the same thing and this is what i took out of it. You gotta enjoy your life now because you wont ever have these opportunities again.
Thanks but no thanks. I assure you that I find happiness and self-fulfillment in what I'm doing. It's not like my happiness is based on consumption, where I'm sacrificing well-being now for well-being later.

Sure, college is supposed to be the best part of life. Too bad I already fwcked that up by slacking off in high school and now going to a dumb university with ugly @$$, cigarette smoking asian girls at every corner and lame parties. I want to achieve my goals so bad. I think about them every second. It's never been like this before.

Yes, I do long for ***** wrapped tight around my ****. Not just that, I long for intimacy with someone. But I assure you, that longing is fully underneath and secondary to this deep drive I have for success.

One of my roommates tells me repeatedly what you just posted. It's not like I'm not having fun. My teammates are awesome and I have a blast just joking around with them on a daily basis. When it comes to devoting time specifically for socializing though, I pass. Nothing can stop me.
 

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Hey guys...it's late...I don't want to write my essay due in 6 hours...

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Was just reading some old stuff back in my high school thread...now I hardly ever go on this site anymore these days, but reading those posts made me feel like I owe it to a couple of those readers to give somewhat of an update.

I'm sure no one's excited to hear that I'm not living the typical American college life, banging sluts left and right...in fact, I'm doing quite the opposite, isolating myself socially to study on weekend nights and work part-time.

This post is really more for my psyche than anything. There really was a solid month where I hardly thought about girls, being completely obsessed with my education, my future, my goals and dreams. You could say my self-projection was that of the guy who is so dedicated to his goals and dreams that not even sexual desire will distract him, despite all the females hopelessly attracted to his strength of spirit.

I thought my inner game had become perfect. Throughout my whole high school life (my high school FR is easily accessible proof of this), I struggled with the self-esteem issue of never having kissed a girl, believing myself to be undesired sexually. In dedicating myself to higher pursuits and working toward them on a daily basis, I got rid of those issues.

This past week, however, thoughts of the female have returned to my mind. I've been longing for sex, intimacy, and emotional connection. Mental images of passionately hooking up with past one-itises have been springing up again. However, the feeling isn't exactly the same as years before when it predominated me--I feel now like it's something I ache for but am willing to do without.

Or am I really willing? I satisfy this desire by telling myself how sexually valuable I will become after all this self-improvement now. In one sense, it is true in that becoming wealthy will raise my social status and value to girls. In another, it is an AFC mindset in the idea that girls will just flock to me without me going out to approach them.

The university I attend has a terrible crop of girls. In fact, it has a generally poor group of people for me to socialize with, filled with people I don't identify with. I pledged with a fraternity but quit because its time commitments got in the way of my goals. I love the guys on my varsity athletic team and have a blast with them, but other than that, I have no friends and no time for friends.

Also, I should share this too--my views on "gaming" have changed a bit. I've kind of began to side against "gaming" in favor of "being myself" and just connecting with someone. The reasoning is that if I am a confident man with inner game, I need not "behave" in a certain way to pick up ladies--all I would do is just do whatever feels natural, with all my actions happening to be that of an alpha male.

Let's just say these thoughts became a little more prevalent this week because the feeling of despair might have begun to develop. These days, I'm hardly ever even around desirable girls or in a chance to interact with them. All week, I think I've maybe talked to 1, possibly 2 girls that I would ever be interested in dating. I live off-campus in an apartment, so there's no meeting bunches of neighbors that I would get in a dorm.

With all that being said, my predominant feeling governing over all these is that "I am stronger." Although the unfulfilled desire for women hurts, I feel completely capable of sacrificing that pleasure in the name of achieving my goals.
 

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congrats on your newfound focus on studying and discipline. Often in the world, people lack discipline and it leads to their demise in the long run. Lord knows i didn't have any discipline my first few years of college.

College is about learning in and out of class and it seems like you are doing well in one field but not the other which is a conflict. I don't think you should go clubbing every day or anything crazy. What I suggest is that you take your admirable ability to adhere to a regime and apply it to women as well. Consider really attempting to meet people for 30 minutes to an hour a day. That same internal structure you have about reading and forcing yourself to study can easily translate over to girls imo.

To me it seems like you have become proficient at studying but as a result become more deficient socially. Leaving a party at your own place shows great resolve but to me, it also shows that you are avoiding potentially fruitful social situations even when they literally come knocking on your door...

Try forcing yourself to be social even when you dont want to, the same way you had to initially force yourself to study even when you didn't want to. It will become automatic after repetition.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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