I need help with this one. It's been like it since high school days where I have so many things in my mind but I think too much about what other people will think of me and I just sit there quietly. I don't really lack self esteem all that much I guess it just became a habit where I just start feeling like I'm going to throw up with the thought of me having to speak in class. Maybe someone can share me something useful like how I should think, or how my mind set should be, give me advice on why I shouldn't care so much what other people will think or something. Should I picture them all naked like that one I read?..hehe..seriously though help your man out here!~
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
lol i used to have the same problem...I felt like the people in my class were all on the same page and looked down upon me
it never matters what you say its all about how you say it...
for instance I was walking into class the other day and the teacher asks who isn't voting and i raised my hand as I slowly walked through the class I interupted and I could hear my classmates kinda laugh...
my i dont give a ****/crack jokes attitude can really break up a boring class
just don't get caught TRYING to impress everybody with your knowledge or insight cause its really annoying when people do that
it never matters what you say its all about how you say it...
for instance I was walking into class the other day and the teacher asks who isn't voting and i raised my hand as I slowly walked through the class I interupted and I could hear my classmates kinda laugh...
my i dont give a ****/crack jokes attitude can really break up a boring class
just don't get caught TRYING to impress everybody with your knowledge or insight cause its really annoying when people do that
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I was always the quiet thinker back in high school. I knew all the answers, but saying something in front of everyone practically gave me a panic attack.vagrant said:I need help with this one. It's been like it since high school days where I have so many things in my mind but I think too much about what other people will think of me and I just sit there quietly. I don't really lack self esteem all that much I guess it just became a habit where I just start feeling like I'm going to throw up with the thought of me having to speak in class. Maybe someone can share me something useful like how I should think, or how my mind set should be, give me advice on why I shouldn't care so much what other people will think or something. Should I picture them all naked like that one I read?..hehe..seriously though help your man out here!~
Listen man, GET OVER IT. The longer you wait the tougher it's going to be. Say what's on your mind more often. Who cares if it's nonsense.. eventually you will filter out things you shouldn't say. First you must get over your insecurity to say what's on your mind. Get over the fact of what people think.
People are more concerned about what people think of them, as opposed to what they think of you. You can make a fool out of yourself and have everyone laughing at you, but you know what? - 2 minutes later people are back to thinking about themselves and how they can project themselves better.
Don't be one of those people!
Have confidence in what you say. Don't think twice about what you say/have said. Listen to others and listen to what they are saying!
I can't sit here and tell you it's going to be an easy process, because it simply isn't. It's going to be very gradual. But if you want to be more sociable, you WILL BE. You are what you think you are. The best of all is that once you get a hang of it.. the rest is downhill. Coming out of my shell is the best thing I ever did with my life. 5 years later, I'm damn proud to say I am me.
Read my thread from awhile ago I posted.. it's very similar to this -
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=106210
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DING DING DING!!! Where's my cookie?vagrant said:...Maybe someone can share me something useful like how I should think, or how my mind set should be...
Think for yourself. If other people think you're weird, they can go fvck themselves. If you want to be "normal," an entirely subjective term, then you can count on never having any kind of effect on this world and dying with a whimper after you live on the measly retirement from the 9 to 5 you busted your ass working at for most of your life.
I got the feeling you were talking about though, the self consciousness, anxiety, all that good stuff when I went to class baked everyday. The trick to overcoming this is to ask yourself "is there anybody here whose opinion I give a fvck about?"
I used to have this problem and I used to be quiet alot of the time.
This year ive started opening up.
Opening up to the fact that whenever I say something,I manage to ask such a goofy ass question that people look forward to whenever I put my hand up and Im about to speak.
If you are wanting to be more participal in a sense that you want to ask more questions to benefit your learning,I heard this once from a teacher.
"If you have a question that you dont understand,there is a very high percentage chance that atleast 1 or two people also dont understand it as well.So ask away."
So that is the mindset that used to get In but now it just comes naturally.I hope it helps
This year ive started opening up.
Opening up to the fact that whenever I say something,I manage to ask such a goofy ass question that people look forward to whenever I put my hand up and Im about to speak.
If you are wanting to be more participal in a sense that you want to ask more questions to benefit your learning,I heard this once from a teacher.
"If you have a question that you dont understand,there is a very high percentage chance that atleast 1 or two people also dont understand it as well.So ask away."
So that is the mindset that used to get In but now it just comes naturally.I hope it helps
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Take this advice. It has worked wonders for many people that I have come across.
Sit all the way in the front of the class. Yes, you read it right. All the way to the front. You should be two feet from the teacher. Then, when the teacher is looking for a question, you just give it. Since you are so close to the teacher, you won't have to speak up. The teacher will usually say something like, "good job/good answer", and that will boost your self-esteem/confidence. Keep at this technique and keep moving back a seat. By the end of the semester, I guarantee you'll be able to sit all the way in the back of the room, and roar out the answer.
Why does it work? Well, a) it has worked in the past b) by sitting all the way to the front you practically 'forget' about all the people sitting behind you because you can't see them c) you won't have to raise your volume and this way you can slowly build confidence.
Try it out. I guarantee it will work for you.
Sit all the way in the front of the class. Yes, you read it right. All the way to the front. You should be two feet from the teacher. Then, when the teacher is looking for a question, you just give it. Since you are so close to the teacher, you won't have to speak up. The teacher will usually say something like, "good job/good answer", and that will boost your self-esteem/confidence. Keep at this technique and keep moving back a seat. By the end of the semester, I guarantee you'll be able to sit all the way in the back of the room, and roar out the answer.
Why does it work? Well, a) it has worked in the past b) by sitting all the way to the front you practically 'forget' about all the people sitting behind you because you can't see them c) you won't have to raise your volume and this way you can slowly build confidence.
Try it out. I guarantee it will work for you.