"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Coldness at Party

Spade_1

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I went to a party tonight and then entire time I was there I felt an air of coldness. Like I didn't belong or something. Granted I didn't know many people there, but it was still very akward. Just wanted to know how you guys deal with this.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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ChrizZ

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Spade_1 said:
I went to a party tonight and then entire time I was there I felt an air of coldness. Like I didn't belong or something. Granted I didn't know many people there, but it was still very akward. Just wanted to know how you guys deal with this.
I have that sometimes, too. Just try to look for the people that look friendly and talkative and start conversations with them. After that start talking to more and more people and the coldness disappears.
 
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That's evidence of paranormal activity. You know, ghosts and stuff. I've seen shows about this. I'd say you're good until stuff starts flying around the room. If that happens you should get the h-e-double hockeysticks out of there.
 

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BigBacneProblem said:
That's evidence of paranormal activity. You know, ghosts and stuff. I've seen shows about this. I'd say you're good until stuff starts flying around the room. If that happens you should get the h-e-double hockeysticks out of there.
u fail.
 

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BigBacneProblem said:
That's evidence of paranormal activity. You know, ghosts and stuff. I've seen shows about this. I'd say you're good until stuff starts flying around the room. If that happens you should get the h-e-double hockeysticks out of there.
WTF? Were you drunk or something when you typed this up? I hope you were drunk and this wasn't some really really bad attempt at a funny joke.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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