"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Cold feet for tinder dates

Prodoge

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I have been on tinder for a couple of months now at first with little success.
Not so long ago i polished up my profile and getting about 5x as many matches.

However not having had tinder dates before i feel uncomfortable by thinking f meeting a complete stranger. Howcould i forget about that and just go out and have fun?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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blind_one

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Been there done that. It is all in your head dude. Now its the opposite, I sometimes get paired with girls that only just recently started using OLD and I can sense their uneasiness.

I have been in your shoes before, but it passed rather quickly. Before you go meet them listen to some cool tunes you like, that put you in a " I am gonna dominate the world " mood. Dress sharp so you feel good about yourself, the rest will just fall into place.
 

AlphaNate

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Meeting strangers is part of life. Meeting women is part of life.

Man up.
 

QuadDeuces

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Tinder dates are mass amounts of dates at the swipe of a finger.
I don't even remember the amount of dates I have had with it.
Today I set up 2 dates with 2 different girls, one for Friday and one for Sunday.
My first date I was nervous as hell, but now it doesn't do much anymore, I just show up, if it doesn't work out I cut it short pay the bill and leave, delete number and forget about them.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Juanto

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I have a question about Tinder, I just matched with this cute girl on Tinder who happens to be a friend of my sister. I have never met this girl, and i dont know if she is aware i am the brother of her friend, so should I just proceed like any other girl or after a couple of messages tell her something like I know you from somewhere?
 

AlphaNate

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I have a question about Tinder, I just matched with this cute girl on Tinder who happens to be a friend of my sister. I have never met this girl, and i dont know if she is aware i am the brother of her friend, so should I just proceed like any other girl or after a couple of messages tell her something like I know you from somewhere?
Girls are weird. Is she an actual friend, or a keep-your-enemies-close friend?

If you can use it to your advantage, use it. If it would hurt, don't. Pretty simple.
 

Juanto

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Girls are weird. Is she an actual friend, or a keep-your-enemies-close friend?

If you can use it to your advantage, use it. If it would hurt, don't. Pretty simple.
They work together too, but to be honest I don't know how well they get along
 
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