"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Cold feet for tinder dates

Prodoge

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I have been on tinder for a couple of months now at first with little success.
Not so long ago i polished up my profile and getting about 5x as many matches.

However not having had tinder dates before i feel uncomfortable by thinking f meeting a complete stranger. Howcould i forget about that and just go out and have fun?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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blind_one

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Been there done that. It is all in your head dude. Now its the opposite, I sometimes get paired with girls that only just recently started using OLD and I can sense their uneasiness.

I have been in your shoes before, but it passed rather quickly. Before you go meet them listen to some cool tunes you like, that put you in a " I am gonna dominate the world " mood. Dress sharp so you feel good about yourself, the rest will just fall into place.
 

AlphaNate

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Meeting strangers is part of life. Meeting women is part of life.

Man up.
 

QuadDeuces

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Tinder dates are mass amounts of dates at the swipe of a finger.
I don't even remember the amount of dates I have had with it.
Today I set up 2 dates with 2 different girls, one for Friday and one for Sunday.
My first date I was nervous as hell, but now it doesn't do much anymore, I just show up, if it doesn't work out I cut it short pay the bill and leave, delete number and forget about them.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Juanto

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I have a question about Tinder, I just matched with this cute girl on Tinder who happens to be a friend of my sister. I have never met this girl, and i dont know if she is aware i am the brother of her friend, so should I just proceed like any other girl or after a couple of messages tell her something like I know you from somewhere?
 

AlphaNate

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I have a question about Tinder, I just matched with this cute girl on Tinder who happens to be a friend of my sister. I have never met this girl, and i dont know if she is aware i am the brother of her friend, so should I just proceed like any other girl or after a couple of messages tell her something like I know you from somewhere?
Girls are weird. Is she an actual friend, or a keep-your-enemies-close friend?

If you can use it to your advantage, use it. If it would hurt, don't. Pretty simple.
 

Juanto

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Girls are weird. Is she an actual friend, or a keep-your-enemies-close friend?

If you can use it to your advantage, use it. If it would hurt, don't. Pretty simple.
They work together too, but to be honest I don't know how well they get along
 
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