"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Cold Approaching is for STUPID PEOPLE

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Ha, the title was designed to mislead. I think approaching is for the elite, the few self-confident men who actually have the balls to create new options. Its the holy grail of this whole game, as grinder once noted, when you have a steady stream of options, all the games– sh1t tests, drama, jealousy– just fade away since you don't need to sweat the relationship.

Anyway here is a trick I've been implementing to cold approach: Approach as a stupid person. Basically go into stupid persona before you approach her, not by affecting anything but by limiting your own thoughts and not allowing yourself to analyze anything.

Analyzing the situation? Don't. Analyzing her? Don't. You're stupid, remember? Analyzing what you could say? Don't.

When your mind has a thought, counter it with: "but I'm stupid right now, so I go for it anyway!"

Say the first thing that comes to your mind, assuming its within the bounds of proper conversation and its topical. Basically don't allow the evaluation process to decide whether or not you approach, don't even allow this thought process to kick in. This thought process sabotages game. Every opportunity is a golden one, as far as your d1ck is concerned.

Do you want to fvck her? Well, then what an ideal setup!!

When you've opened just take the ball and run with it, but this trick is for overcoming the initial paralysis of "what if she...", "how is her mood", "is this going to work". Its a mental equivalent of the 3 second rule.

What you do when you initiate a convo is ancient stuff, we have way more brain cells and IQ points than we need to do this, and it all just gets in the way. You could literally be a near-retarded person and the mating ritual is similar or the same IMO.

When I was doing "trial runs" over the last weeks, basically sarging while wimping out simultaneously, I found that you can start to think of reasons why NOT to approach. Its absurd. There is ALWAYS a reason not to do it.

Hear the voice of cold analytical thinking when you approach? That voice will definitely not get you laid, never in a billion years IMO. Once you start to weigh the pros and cons of doing it, you're done. Turning off that voice is really crucial to making the 'leap of faith' and opening a total stranger.

Be stupid.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I have actually found this to be true. I don't exactly put myself into a stupid frame of mind. But I clear my ahead real fast and move in immediately when I'm about to approach..... before all the analytical thoughts and apprehensions come into play. Once you are engage the girl and are in her presence you are forced to talk...
 

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Agreed. There's a lot to be said for just going for it - its allows your natural creativity to breathe or some artsy crap like that.
 
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that is why intellectual people usually fail at being good with women

too much overanalysis

also known as being nerdy


EDIT: L777 this is only my 3rd post today, but i have over 10 posts in the last 24 hours thanks to our wonderful new rule, so i can only reply to u through an edit

i agree with what you say there.......the thinkers are the ones who fail with women, and then come on here and say things like "i have a successful career, tons of hobbies, successful this successful that..........but i fail with women"

to get women, you need to naturally make yourself dumber so that you can get along with women on their level

trust me L777, i have talked like a total douche/"gangsta" with some gorgeous looking 19 year olds and they, for some reason, really like that kinda talk, that kind of dumbed down personality (whatever, thats how i ran my game and i remember ****ing several of them) lol
 
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this is true, you dont have to dumb yourself down but let the your mind be free and calm rather like constantly computing thoughts.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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positivity_injection said:
that is why intellectual people usually fail at being good with women

too much overanalysis

also known as being nerdy
haha that used to be me....but I thought my way to sosuave.com and changed.

Its true though, there's a mentally retarded guy who works at the local campus diner at my college, and he speaks to everyone, with literally no fear or apprehension, and hes actually really popular and cool (he's not sverely disabled I think he just has learning diffiulties)

Thats why I never like mystry method and other similar things. There's too much thought put into it. Thinking will kill your game IMO
 
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