"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Cold approaching for the mature and classy man

wheelin&dealin

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Jariel said:
Cold approaching for the mature and classy man
Ask yourself these 3 questions...

1. Do you know how to start a conversation with someone?

2. Can you say "what's your number" at the end of the conversation?

3. Are you capable of dialing a phone once given the number?



If you can do all 3 of these things... then you will be able to cold approach.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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mzilla2 said:
Bump for real life examples, as I gotta do more cold approaching.

Steinmart today at lunch.

So simple it was stupid. I see a HB7 looking at mirrors. I just walk up and ask her

“It says red dot sale but I don’t see any red dot, do you?” The dot really was tiny and we both leaned in to see it.

Duh, “What are you shopping for…?” She was new in town so I get her life story of how she got here. I did not even follow my own steps where I use the email/phone close; we had coffee together immediately and I played the tour guide dude.

Of course, that was my 3rd store today and about the 8th approach I had made. I prescreened her for few seconds and waited until she was looking around like she needed some help, just seconds before she was about to give up and walk off.
 

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I mentioned on another thread that being non-threatening is my primary aim. However, I have used C&F on stunners and it has worked brilliantly. So I think having a few different techniques will give you choices based on how you size her up upon the initial sighting.

As with girls reading our body language and appearance, you can figure out a few things about a girl before opening your mouth. I'm just getting to the stage of automatically trying C&F or funny openers with beautiful women, and sort of blah openers for average but interesting chicks.
 
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