Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Cold Approaches?

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Hi,

I have just started college on Tuesday and I am rather amaze how many hotties there were about. Anyway, since I joined this forum, my confident has increase alot. Today, I was having my lunch break on a nice open mainland in the sun. Approximatley 10 metres behind me was HB 8, but the trouble is, I have never experience a 'cold approach' before. She was all on her own having a fag but I couldn't think of any good cold approach lines without shocking her in a way but unfortunately she disappeared shortly after so I didn't really have a chance.

So experience DJ's can you think of any good 'cold approach' lines I could use at college. I struggled to think of a good one. What about this, 'How is your day', I dunno. I have to say I am fairly shy but I am going to do it. This is a new ball game to me.

Any advise would be much appericated.

Thanks
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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gav

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join the bootcamp right now! over at the dj discussion forum (the sticky at the top)

and the best coldapproach line ever known to man is "hi"

it's good if you can start the convo from something happening around you (ie observational) - can be something she's wearing, carrying, saying, doing etc. or something someone else is doing, wearing, saying etc

and always assume friendship. don't go about asking

"hi, my name's blah, my lifestory is blah, what's your's? where are you from? what do you do?"

no, assume the friendship. you don't need to know where she's from, what she does for a living etc, just have some fun.

e.g. man walks past with a white panama hat on

you (in a playful way i.e. not serious):

"man, that's a sweet hat, don't you think?"
"i think it would look good on me. i think i'd suit it"

i find that by doing it this way (expressing opinions about a shared observation), if the convo drops dead, you won't give a shyt because you are sharing your reality with her. if she doesn't take the bait and carry it on, you won't give a shyt. plus, you can learn a lot, just by judging her reaction to your comments.

close for number (if you like her and things are going well, even if you just speak for a minute), say "i'm trying to meet some new people about here, you seem like a *insert not very flattering compliment e.g. nice* person, give me your number so we can hang out sometime"

note the "give me" command - not a question

but, take it at your own pace. join that bootcamp (first week's only saying "hi" to 50 folk) and if you are talking to girls, you don't need to close for their number. if they interest you though, you'd be best to get it
 

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Originally posted by Grandmaster Sexay
Hi,

I have just started college on Tuesday and I am rather amaze how many hotties there were about. Anyway, since I joined this forum, my confident has increase alot. Today, I was having my lunch break on a nice open mainland in the sun. Approximatley 10 metres behind me was HB 8, but the trouble is, I have never experience a 'cold approach' before. She was all on her own having a fag but I couldn't think of any good cold approach lines without shocking her in a way but unfortunately she disappeared shortly after so I didn't really have a chance.
She was having a fag for lunch?
 

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Re: Re: Cold Approaches?

Originally posted by Danny21682
She was having a fag for lunch?
It means cigarette in Europe ;)

This is what you would have said:

"Hey, how's it going?"
>>blah blah
"Good thanks. You know, those fags are very bad for you ;)"

If she doesnt respond lightly to that then just abort.
 
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haha. I don't remember the last time I saw someone have a cigarette for lunch:D .

Cool R3N3GAD3, next time I bump into her, I'll ask her that question. I have got to hear what she says.;)
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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gav

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Re: Re: Cold Approaches?

Originally posted by Danny21682
She was having a fag for lunch?
ha
 
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