cold approaches/what can i do to prevent flaking?

[john_1234]

the last two numbers i received through cold approaching both turned out to be flakes. in both situations, i chatted no more than a few minutes because my time is limited during my lunch breaks. i called both up, got their voicemails, and left a message the first time. never leave a message the 2nd call (which is the next day after the first call). i then skip a day and called a third time. left a message w/ both and said, "what's happening this is john, just got out of school, work, etc.. this is the last time i'm going to call... but if you want to chat, ring me @ 555.5555" (i'm aware of voice tone and don't say it in a negative way; in fact, i've had girls call me back w/ this routine)

would the following two help prevent flaking?
*chatting for prolonged period, maybe five minutes or so, aiming for rapport
*how about email? david d. stresses this in his ebook and advanced although i've always shoot for #'s. maybe i should give email a try instead?

 

[speedo_meme]

*how about email? david d. stresses this in his ebook and advanced although i've always shoot for #'s. maybe i should give email a try instead?

Email is gay

 

[xblitz44x]

would the following two help prevent flaking?
*chatting for prolonged period, maybe five minutes or so, aiming for rapport
*how about email? david d. stresses this in his ebook and advanced although i've always shoot for #'s. maybe i should give email a try instead?

Rapport, rapport, rapport. I don't know where you're meeting these girls but I assume by "Cold Approaches" you mean on the street, at the mall, or the subway or something. If we're on the same page you have to remember that it is a scary fvcking world out there for women; hundreds of potential rapists and murderers are everywhere.. And lets be honest, it's not 'normal' for a guy to just go out of his way to talk to a girl that he passed by on the street. You know you're not Ted Bundy or Ronnie The Rapist but she doesn't. You need to spend plenty of time establishing rapport and making connections with her.

 

[Jariel]

Rapport, rapport, rapport. I don't know where you're meeting these girls but I assume by "Cold Approaches" you mean on the street, at the mall, or the subway or something. If we're on the same page you have to remember that it is a scary fvcking world out there for women; hundreds of potential rapists and murderers are everywhere.. And lets be honest, it's not 'normal' for a guy to just go out of his way to talk to a girl that he passed by on the street. You know you're not Ted Bundy or Ronnie The Rapist but she doesn't. You need to spend plenty of time establishing rapport and making connections with her.

I completely agree. My female friends have told me they would never go out with a guy who cold approached them, mainly for this reason.

Plus, many women want to get to know something about a guy and whether he's worth dating before taking a chance. A 10 minute conversation is not enough for girls to make that decision. They probably gave you their number because A) they didn't want the awkwardness of brushing you off face to face or B) They were flattered and in the moment it seemed ok. However, they usually rethink it all in between then and your call.

Personally, I believe majority of the girls who will respond well to a cold approach are the same type of girls who are up for one night stands in clubs. And if that's your thing, getting them in the club, when they're drinking and on the pull is a lot easier!