"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Cold approach vs social circle in less than 1min

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'm someone who has actually gotten basically all of his lays from cold approach (mainly in bars) as I wasn't lucky enough to have girls working at my place or a good general social circle with girls

So it was always a mystery exactly how other people like my friends hook up with girls. I couldn't really envision it in a way, and was kind of jealous for a while, assuming that these guys must have had some elite level game (I was too heavily into PUA back then lol)

But what I came to learn is that it's the same as at school. It doesn't change. It was basically always a case of the girl telling one of her friends at work that she likes him/thinks he's handsome, and then the friend would match-make a little, then they add each other on facebook, flirt online and like each others pics, and eventually they just bang (usually on a works night out) He didn't DO anything other than be her type. Didn't need to worry about esclation or game or even getting rejected for a kiss as he already knew she likes him. Wasn't thinking about how to approach, how to sexualise, pushpull bla bla bla.
And this dude was banging tonnes of the hot teenagers who worked at his place (he's like 30). But I don't think he's ever picked up a girl from cold approach
 
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cheyne said:
I'm someone who has actually gotten basically all of his lays from cold approach (mainly in bars) as I wasn't lucky enough to have girls working at my place or a good general social circle with girls

So it was always a mystery exactly how other people like my friends hook up with girls. I couldn't really envision it in a way, and was kind of jealous for a while, assuming that these guys must have had some elite level game (I was too heavily into PUA back then lol)

But what I came to learn is that it's the same as at school. It doesn't change. It was basically always a case of the girl telling one of her friends at work that she likes him/thinks he's handsome, and then the friend would match-make a little, then they add each other on facebook, flirt online and like each others pics, and eventually they just bang (usually on a works night out) He didn't DO anything other than be her type. Didn't need to worry about esclation or game or even getting rejected for a kiss as he already knew she likes him. Wasn't thinking about how to approach, how to sexualise, pushpull bla bla bla.
And this dude was banging tonnes of the hot teenagers who worked at his place (he's like 30). But I don't think he's ever picked up a girl from cold approach
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Yeah I knew a Chadlite at work who hooked up with half of the females in the building. I went to the bar with him one night (during the early 2000s PUA craze). I did several cold approaches, but didn't get anywhere that night. He told me I had a lot of ballz, and he could never approach random women like that. That made no sense to me at the time. Why would a better looking guy be afraid? Well, he was a "social circle guy" who was used to women coming to him. Cold approach was not in his reality.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Mike32ct said:
Yeah I knew a Chadlite at work who hooked up with half of the females in the building
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Guess it would be hard to find corporation where 1/2 of the female population are single .. :zip:

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The other thing about that guy was he was a master of NEVER saying a word about who he's dating or hooking up with. He would keep it quiet (properly), and thus chicks felt comfortable having secret hookups with him. His reputation (or gossip between chicks) did all the work for him.
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Yeah this is a thing many guys actually not getting for some reason
 
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Mike32ct said:
Yeah I knew a Chadlite at work who hooked up with half of the females in the building. I went to the bar with him one night (during the early 2000s PUA craze). I did several cold approaches, but didn't get anywhere that night. He told me I had a lot of ballz, and he could never approach random women like that. That made no sense to me at the time. Why would a better looking guy be afraid? Well, he was a "social circle guy" who was used to women coming to him. Cold approach was not in his reality.
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This is the natural way to meet women, cold approach is only for those of us who have no social circle.
 
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Georgepithyou said:
This is the natural way to meet women, cold approach is only for those of us who have no social circle.
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Cold approach and app swiping are for people who don't have social circle capabilities.

Judging by the popularity of apps, fewer people have effective social circles. Other research has demonstrated fewer extended relationships are forming from social circles.

When I have used swipe apps in my city, I have found that the women on the swipe apps were mainly transplanted to my cities from other U.S. regions and/or smaller towns in my state. Women with strong local ties have rarely used swipe apps.
 
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