Cold Approach problem.

[BigWillyStyle]

I feel like a deviant freak when I do cold approaches, nobody I know does them and I did a couple today just to get a better feel of them and felt like a big time sexual deviant, like a weirdo..

How do you guys get over feeling like a freak from doing cold approaches? Doing them in bars and clubs are fine but anywhere else...

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

It's all about how you approach and what you say. What do you do exactly?

 

[Wiesman44]

Ever screw a girl that was really loud and freaky and always horny ? Well I have, and thats how I use to justify it. Women desperately want the co#k. They are dying for u to approach them ! Think like that. You are doing them a favor.


Your problem is all mental. There's no specific way to fix it. You just have to get over it. And if your friendly enough, they won't think of you as a sexual deviant. Now if your acting weird, thats a different story.

 

[One on One]

I would like to hear some responses on this, too. I think generally you should use a socially-acceptable observational opener. The direct "hi" to a random girl or "are you single" that so many people talk about are gonna come off weird to most women.

 

[Broham]

It depends on the situation. "Hi, I'm ___" might be acceptable at a party where you don't really know anyone, but it might sound strange at a supermarket when she's trying to pick out oranges. Maybe you could make out a list of clever approaches for certain situations, practice them, then go from there........

 

[Ladiesssman]

I have the same problem. It feel weired at restuarant, mall, street.

I tried it at party, waitress at restaurant, and a customer who celebrated bday at restaurant. I got their number, but all flaked. If I can do this with result, i'd be the master.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I just make sure that they aren't put on the defensive by asking them a question about the situation we're sharing at that moment. I ask her opinion about they type of book she's reading, the type of laundry detergent she's buying, if a particular tie matches a particular shirt, whatever.

Most women enjoy being helpful. If I'm really interested in a women I meet in a mall, I'll ask her directions to a nearby coffee shop and ask if she would like to tag along. A guy that doesn't mind asking for directions (from a woman at that) tends to make a lasting impression.

The thing is that I never approach them in a manner that they would feel that I would want anything from them other than a little help.

 

[whistler]

What works well is to ask an open-ended, non-personal question... one that anyone who needs a little help might ask, especially one that a woman would be most helpful in answering. (Of course, a question about a present for a girlfriend would be an obvious no-no.)

Then, when she answers, make it seem as though her answer unexpectedly caught your attention and drew you in.

That way, she feels special, and SHE becomes the one that invites further conversation. Putting her in that position has many benefits. (no imagery intended, lol)