Cold approach problem: lacking thrust

[anonymous12345]

When it comes to intuitive, unprepared approaches I almost always fail, except for with asians. This is imperative, if I decide "this walk I'm gonna cold approach", it goes fine, it's the unprepared ones I fail. In bed I’m absolutely fine with dominance, but it’s as if I lack the energy or “air” for doing these approaches, and the girl passes me there on the street.

It’s not anxiety or stress (the typical approach anxiety), it’s a lack of dominance. It feels like I can’t “win” over her, and I’m left in some bland helplessness. After some meters/time I realise that I’ve missed and have distress. It's as if I have a blackout, not thinking, not perceiving, during the time the approach can be done and I wake up afterwards.

One thought is that it’s related to me being introvert, but it’s not that much, maybe 50% or so.

Any thoughts on a solution?

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

It’s not anxiety or stress (the typical approach anxiety), it’s a lack of dominance. It feels like I can’t “win” over her, and I’m left in some bland helplessness. After some meters/time I realise that I’ve missed and have distress. It's as if I have a blackout, not thinking, not perceiving, during the time the approach can be done and I wake up afterwards.

Walk around like your spirit animal.

 

[anonymous12345]

Walk around like your spirit animal.

Might work.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Might work.

Works for me.

 

[anonymous12345]

Works for me.

Wolf is an animal that is crucial to me. In one critical period in my life I looked myself in the mirror, and saw it sneer at me. I got scared as hell. A hallucination or whatever you'd call it.

First hit from on Google says the wolf signify "intelligence, instincts, and freedom." I got many such attributes but could get better on the killer instinct.

How do you practically carry being your spirit animal?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

When it comes to intuitive, unprepared approaches I almost always fail, except for with asians. This is imperative, if I decide "this walk I'm gonna cold approach", it goes fine, it's the unprepared ones I fail. In bed I’m absolutely fine with dominance, but it’s as if I lack the energy or “air” for doing these approaches, and the girl passes me there on the street.

It’s not anxiety or stress (the typical approach anxiety), it’s a lack of dominance. It feels like I can’t “win” over her, and I’m left in some bland helplessness. After some meters/time I realise that I’ve missed and have distress. It's as if I have a blackout, not thinking, not perceiving, during the time the approach can be done and I wake up afterwards.

One thought is that it’s related to me being introvert, but it’s not that much, maybe 50% or so.

Any thoughts on a solution?

Realize this is all in your mind and then be determined to change this. Without this willingness nothing will help.

You are your own worst enemy at this point.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

How do you practically carry being your spirit animal?

I behave like a tomcat. Always on the prowl to drag kittens to my lair.

(That I carry a tomcat around is just happenstance. He got used to riding my shoulder when I had to carry him with me through Prague for six days. Back in Amsterdam I just continued taking him everywhere.)

 

[anonymous12345]

Realize this is all in your mind and then be determined to change this. Without this willingness nothing will help.

You are your own worst enemy at this point.

I agree.

 

[obelisk]

Spirit racoon. Sifting through the trash for the good ones.