"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I find myself specializing in approaching women at book stores, coffee shops and the like. How many times have you gone into one of these places to find some HBs studying? Happens to me all the time. Here is the approach:

Me: Hi how are you?
Her: ok
Me: What subject are you studying?
Her: Feminazi 101 (lol). I have a test coming up.
Me: Really, well let's see just how prepared you are. (take her notes, book, cue cards or whatever)
Her: OK.

Start to ask her questions relating to her notes. You can then begin asking her questions totally unrelated to the subject (get creative here). At the end of the quiz, you get to decide if she passes or fails.

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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I enjoy sarging in bookstores too but I use more humor in my approaches. Most times after reading something I could make a joke about, I ask her if I could read it to her and then get her opinion.

After reading the passage I interject my humor, get a laugh and then she seems to easily open up with her opinion. We chat for a moment or two and I either #close or suggest that we move to a different venue like a coffee shop or just a walk around the mall. It usually ends with her telling me that she feels as if she's known me forever. Gotta love rapport... ;)
 

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Originally posted by MightyMate
Girls aint letting touch their personal stuff [books, etc] just liek that..
OOOH! But they do let you take their drinks in the bar just like that... haha yes they do.. haha

Originally posted by JC Jerkson
Before I try this..how has this worked for you?
That should be your quote JC... You never do try anything new unless the chance of screwing up was taken by somebody else first...


Nice post Fan(I hate the retarted 27 part on the end of your name)

Done this too many times to know this is not a trip...
 

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You cant come ot girl, say 'hey i wanna test Your knowledge', take her notes and start asking questions. She will think You are retarded. Stuff with drinjk is more possible because it happends FAST. And this is not happening fast. She will tell You to screw ;) Thats what i think.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I used this technique for the first time yesterday and used it twice today. The second approach was this girl studying chemistry. I was asking her some made of questions (who discovered H20, etc). I made sure she got the last question right which earned her an A for the Quiz. This is an easy way to use humor in the approch.

This isn't always the best play. Just one of many ways to skin a cat.

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Originally posted by fan27
I used this technique for the first time yesterday and used it twice today. The second approach was this girl studying chemistry. I was asking her some made of questions (who discovered H20, etc). I made sure she got the last question right which earned her an A for the Quiz. This is an easy way to use humor in the approch.

This isn't always the best play. Just one of many ways to skin a cat.

fan27
So tell us, what happened?
 

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Originally posted by JC Jerkson
Before I try this..how has this worked for you?
For me, this doesn't work. My worst results were from talking about homework or tests. Unless we're both in the same class, or doing the same test.

I'd recommend staying away from schoolwork talk, because quite frankly, its just not a fun topic.
 

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Originally posted by diplomatic_lies
For me, this doesn't work. My worst results were from talking about homework or tests. Unless we're both in the same class, or doing the same test.

I'd recommend staying away from schoolwork talk, because quite frankly, its just not a fun topic.
Thats what i also think. **** school.
 

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Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
So tell us, what happened?

2 emails. 1 rejection so far. The key to this approach is to make it humurous when asking her the questions. I'll do some more field testing next week.

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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Originally posted by fan27
2 emails. 1 rejection so far. The key to this approach is to make it humurous when asking her the questions. I'll do some more field testing next week.

fan27
Here's something to consider, definitely keep the humor but present it in a way other than a test. Tests normally put people on edge (no matter how funny the questions may be). The person has no idea what you are up to and will be spending most of the time what and why you are doing such a strange thing and not fully engaging you in conversation.

Yes, giving someone a test out of the blue will make you memorable:
  • Who is this person talking to me?
  • Is this what he does to everyone he meets, give them tests?
  • I hope he doesn't have a ton of these strange questions.
  • I wonder if he's doing this to make himself feel good about his own intellect.
  • Oh, I get it... He's trying to pick me up! Wouldn't it be easier for him to just ask me what I was reading?
  • I wonder if he's like this on a real date? Well, I don't want to find out...

Just something to consider...
 

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my problem is never seeing any honeys at the barnes an nobles here. wtf gives?

nothin but old geezers there whenever i go. and thats ****ed up!
 

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Originally posted by Julian
my problem is never seeing any honeys at the barnes an nobles here. wtf gives?

nothin but old geezers there whenever i go. and thats ****ed up!
YEAH!!! WE GEEZERS OWN B&N BIOTCH!!!! :box:

But seriously, you're 20 dude, not many women your age will hang out there; it's more for the intellectuals and that's not the frame of women your age (at least not typically). Stop by every now and then, you may get lucky. Just be sure to be prepared.
 

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Hey Francisco, when I edit my posts I get a quick message underneath saying I did so

Where is your message saying you edited your post? Or did you delete yours? Where is the option for doing that?
 

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I usually get that message too. I haven't tried removing it from any of my posts, I don't know if you can. I do believe that if you edit your post very shortly after posting it, it may not tag it as being edited.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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yeah cause you edited that top message there, it used to just say "yeah we geezers own b&n, biotch" in caps, or something along the lines without any explanation:p
 
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