iwanttofight
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So do you think coffee is good or bad for you? Would it be better to not drink coffee at all or would it benefit me to drink it?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Well, technically speaking, even smoking cigarettes has "health benefits".Colossus said:Caffeine is not VERY bad for you. Neither is beer. It's all about the dosage.
Moderate caffeine intake is fine. By moderate I mean 1-3 cups of coffee per day. Coffee actually has some health benefits in moderation, as does beer. But the key is to know what moderation is. You arent going to be any worse off health-wise by not consuming these beverages, but if you do consume them moderately you will be fine.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
If you drink it all at once, you will destroy yourself. If you space it out and don't go overboard, you should be fine.iwanttofight said:The reason why im asking is because I was recently given a boat load of coffee, literally. I want to know if I drink all of this coffee, probably $400 dollars worth, am I going to benefit from this or am I going to destroy myself. Capice.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Moderate drinkers live longer than abstainers. Alcohol is not on the same level as smoking at all.TheEndOfDays said:Well, technically speaking, even smoking cigarettes has "health benefits".
It actually acts as a mild anti-depressant too.Drink it all the time with creamer/coconut milk, and I have no health issues. In my opinion it's an excellent source for energy and fat-burning.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.