iwanttofight
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So do you think coffee is good or bad for you? Would it be better to not drink coffee at all or would it benefit me to drink it?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Well, technically speaking, even smoking cigarettes has "health benefits".Colossus said:Caffeine is not VERY bad for you. Neither is beer. It's all about the dosage.
Moderate caffeine intake is fine. By moderate I mean 1-3 cups of coffee per day. Coffee actually has some health benefits in moderation, as does beer. But the key is to know what moderation is. You arent going to be any worse off health-wise by not consuming these beverages, but if you do consume them moderately you will be fine.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
If you drink it all at once, you will destroy yourself. If you space it out and don't go overboard, you should be fine.iwanttofight said:The reason why im asking is because I was recently given a boat load of coffee, literally. I want to know if I drink all of this coffee, probably $400 dollars worth, am I going to benefit from this or am I going to destroy myself. Capice.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Moderate drinkers live longer than abstainers. Alcohol is not on the same level as smoking at all.TheEndOfDays said:Well, technically speaking, even smoking cigarettes has "health benefits".
It actually acts as a mild anti-depressant too.Drink it all the time with creamer/coconut milk, and I have no health issues. In my opinion it's an excellent source for energy and fat-burning.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.