"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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wolf116

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So how do you guys work this?

What time is best? 5pm roundabouts?

Do you ask what she wants and buy it for her, or stand in line together and buy separately?

Do you set a time constraint? What would you say?

What's goodbye etiquette?

Cheers.
 

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Based on my experience (usually these are first dates for me):

6-7pm on weekdays, 1-3pm on weekends.

I'm usually late, so either she has already bought for herself or we buy together and I pay, though a couple times she had a giftcard so she paid. Never have asked what she wanted and bought it for her, that seems like a good idea though.

Usually don't set a time constraint unless one of us has somewhere to be. In my experience, we usually talk for 2-3 hours unless its clear that there's no connection at all then I make up some reason to leave or pretend to get a phone call.

For goodbye, I usually walk her to her car, hug goodbye, say I had fun, and leave it at then. If things went well, then I'll text her the next day or the day after and plan something.
 

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What time is best? 5pm roundabouts?

Weekdays 7-8pm

Do you ask what she wants and buy it for her, or stand in line together and buy separately?

I'd buy both drinks ahead of time and just wait

Do you set a time constraint? What would you say?

1-2 hours depending on the person's talkativeness

What's goodbye etiquette?

Girls I'm not sure about, I wave them off from a distance, Girls I'm sure about: Fist bump
 

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wolf116 said:
What time is best?
Weekdays (Monday -Thursday) 1600 - 2100. Weekends (Wide open)

Do you ask what she wants and buy it for her, or stand in line together and buy separately?
Wait until she gets there. If she's late, do not reward bad behavior. She buys both of yours. Maximizes your self-control. She shows up on time you give her a good thirty second gaze (insert sh!t eating grin) then tell her you're going to surprise her.

Strawberry Frap is ALWAYS a winner.

Use every single opportunity to keep her mental Gerbil running laps.

Do you set a time constraint? What would you say?
Always. Two hours is the max. No more or you become clingy. Be vague with what your plans are afterwards.

What's goodbye etiquette?
Alright.

This is where you can use Karma's patented greeting:

As she approaches you, turn your cheek towards her and gently tap it with your forefinger. Add a wry smile, and she'll always lean in for the kiss.

This move has NEVER failed to set her into the proper mental frame that she's in the presence of a man. A man completely unafraid of his sexuality.

This move alone has gotten me laid under 30 minutes after meeting.
 

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Coffee Date Steps:

1) Pay money
2) Get coffee

A coffee date isn't meant to be complicated, OP. It's meant to be simple. That's why we make them. So that it's easy to forget about the setting and just shoot the sh*t.

Set a time, and a day, and let the rest happen the way it should. If you're working on being an awesome human being, it will likely turn out fine.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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