"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Clubs not for the weak or the timid

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Mmm been out clubbing ever since I turned 18 which hasn't been long. Been cold approaching got some convos, got some shoulder turns and no hook ups yet. Last night approach relatively good looking chick and on dance floor i tapped her on shoulder she looked then back around to her group of friends.

Countless topics about this subject have been made but really is it best to approach on the dance floor or the girls who are sitting around??

I reckon you got a higher rejection rate in the club then in the fvcking mall...

I am considering going under 18's to get some easy young chicks..

Gotta improve the club game too.
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

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I reckon you got a higher rejection rate in the club then in the fvcking mall..
If you're ugly to average looking, ur gonna have a hella high rejection rate, plain and simple.

Countless topics about this subject have been made but really is it best to approach on the dance floor or the girls who are sitting around??
You can approach anywhere and everywhere. I've had success approaching both ways, I enjoy on the dancefloor more because I know how to dance and its just way easier to hook up for the night, the ones sitting down ain't drinking and they usually have bvtch shields on 120%. Both are possible depends on preference, I've tried both... dancefloor is my game

I am considering going under 18's to get some easy young chicks..
You want illegal pvssy ? Why would you want to game 'children' lol why not just go hang outside the local middle-school... eww man


-Cod3r
 

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LegendBoy said:
Last night approach relatively good looking chick and on dance floor i tapped her on shoulder she looked then back around to her group of friends.


Countless topics about this subject have been made but really is it best to approach on the dance floor or the girls who are sitting around??
Look at your first example, you already made a mistake there. You don't surprise women with a tap on the shoulder and expect them to jump into you to the dance floor. They got to feel you out a bit before they let you into their personal space.

The best way is to start dancing on the floor by yourself and if you got the moves other ladies who are on the dance floor will notice you and when you lock eyes with one of them, you start to dance towards her and if she likes you, she will let you get closer to her personal space and maybe give you a little smile (which is a sign of approval). That is when you know you are in and without even asking you just come up close to her, take her hand and dance with her (don't ask). If you spot women sitting down and facing the dance floor while you put the moves on this girl that is a great social proof and you can lock eyes with them and that is going to be your follow up target.

I did this a few times and when I got a good smile all I had to do is smile back and motion with my finger to "come here" to a girl across the room and she would.
 

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Re: On Clubs and One-Night Stands

Yeah, you have to be thick-skinned in clubs because women there can be heartless. During my late teens to early 20's, it used to hurt my feelings so much when I would try to dance with a woman on the dance floor and she would walk away to her friends and dance with them instead. As I grew much older and used to how things work over there, I could care less. Whenever a woman does that, I just keep on moving to the next chick and then the next chick and eventually I get one to dance with me. It's interesting. I remember one time last spring, I went to a club by myself and there were these two, chicks dancing together. I noticed one Indian guy roaming around them trying to pull one of them toward him, but he was acting really nervous and didn't seem to have the courage to do so. So I went on to dance with one of the chicks so that it could help him get his groove on with her partner as well. The two women not only walked away from us, but the one the Indian guy was aiming for, grabbed her friends hand, took her away from the dance floor and out of the club. They were dancing so close that I wondered if they weren't more than friends, although women can be really weird. The interesting thing is the club is located at the ground floor level of a hotel.

I was curious, though...I really haven't had any one-night stands since I've been living in the U.S. now for about 10 years. Those of you who've had one-night stands with club chicks, what do you say? Do you openly say things like: "I wish I could bang you right now," or a milder approach such as: "Would you like to continue this party at my place (would you like to come over to my place?" What line has typically worked for those of you who've had one-night stands?
 

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DJDamage said:
Look at your first example, you already made a mistake there. You don't surprise women with a tap on the shoulder and expect them to jump into you to the dance floor. They got to feel you out a bit before they let you into their personal space.

The best way is to start dancing on the floor by yourself and if you got the moves other ladies who are on the dance floor will notice you and when you lock eyes with one of them, you start to dance towards her and if she likes you, she will let you get closer to her personal space and maybe give you a little smile (which is a sign of approval). That is when you know you are in and without even asking you just come up close to her, take her hand and dance with her (don't ask). If you spot women sitting down and facing the dance floor while you put the moves on this girl that is a great social proof and you can lock eyes with them and that is going to be your follow up target.

I did this a few times and when I got a good smile all I had to do is smile back and motion with my finger to "come here" to a girl across the room and she would.
Yeah, I'm pretty bad with women in typical circumstances but even I can
"sidle" up to a girl on the dance floor. Alcohol and getting into the music really helps. You don't need to move on them at THAT point, either. You can dance around them, get a nod or two, and then "bump" into them in the bar lineup. "Oops! Hey, saw you up there on the dance floor..."
 

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The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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You guys constantly knock the club enviroment, but the mPUA's in The Game, were constantly pulling chicks from the club and effing them. I think it's just a matter of getting your game tight. If you don't know how to dance, then I'd suggest you take some hip-hop dancing lessons. Don't let the club or the chicks in the club intimidate you. When you do that, you relinquish power and give it to them.
 

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In clubs it really depends on how good looking you are and you just need to have little bit of game.
 

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Frank2500 said:
I really haven't had any one-night stands since I've been living in the U.S. now for about 10 years.
Lol, there you go. The problem is the women here.

Unless you're Black or extremely "studly"-looking, no women will give you the time of day in your average club here.

The situation is different overseas...where I assume you're from and had better "luck?"
 

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Re: Sohat's Worked for You Guys, Then?

So what's an example of a good line some of you who've had one-night stands have used to get the woman to sleep with you when you're leaving the club? The thing I've noticed with many club girls is it honestly seems as if a good number of them aren't there to pursue relationships with guys. You may have a good dance, get a phone number, but when you call her after that and try to reach her, she never calls you back. At the same time, perhaps if you're too blunt in terms of making it clear that you want to do her that same night, she may use that against you. So what's worked for you guys?
 

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wayword said:
Unless you're Black or extremely "studly"-looking, no women will give you the time of day in your average club here.
Yep, Gary Coleman is a babe magnet.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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wayword said:
Lol, there you go. The problem is the women here.

Unless you're Black or extremely "studly"-looking, no women will give you the time of day in your average club here.

The situation is different overseas...where I assume you're from and had better "luck?"
Trust me, it´s no different here in Europe. Where I´m from (Germany) chicks are really prude.
 

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Re:

Those experiences with women in clubs are universal to most men regardless of race. I'm a black guy, although one originally from another country.
 

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We got small clubs in my city (but many of them)

Out of the 50 or so people (average per club) on a good night you'll see 4 hook up on the dancefloor and leave together....

To find somebody to dance with for the night you got 1 out of 10 chance.

Things might have changed, i haven't been in a club in a while.....I go to a strip club now (i always ended up there anyways)
 

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First off... wat type of clubs are you guys going to ??

The club I most frequent are consistently 1000+ population, 6 floors (salsa, reggaeton, west indian, rap, pop, trance), maybe that's why i'm not understanding wat u guys find so hard about clubs... I go into the west indian room and its just as easy as walking directly to the girl you want, taking her hand, throwing her up against a wall and do what u want...

I remember one white girl with these HUGE tits, man i walked right up to her and put my hand on them and we're grindin with both hands just feeling those juicy suckers. Its so many people the girls don't even refuse, wat is she going to do ?? They are touched ALL night, grabbed, groped, u can do watever you want, their shields are ALL down in these types of clubs... they just let it go

I think u guys just need a good wing who can show u a few things, most of you seem inexperienced

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So what's an example of a good line some of you who've had one-night stands have used to get the woman to sleep with you when you're leaving the club? The thing I've noticed with many club girls is it honestly seems as if a good number of them aren't there to pursue relationships with guys. You may have a good dance, get a phone number, but when you call her after that and try to reach her, she never calls you back. At the same time, perhaps if you're too blunt in terms of making it clear that you want to do her that same night, she may use that against you. So what's worked for you guys?
My most memorable ONS, I saw this Italian female (HB7) and i approached her and said somethin madd funny, we both started cracking up. From there danced for a few songs (if u get more than 2 dances, u should be hookin up) and so I knew she was down for the hookup, took her upstairs on some couches and proceeded for some groping and harder kissing, once she felt my rod was hard, she said she was tired and she'd take me home...

I don't remember using any 'line' @ the club, we got to her place in N. Jersey, shagged and I had to take some broke down bus back to the city. I still see her in the club now, its nice cuz she's instantly mine when I want her, no sex as who has sex with a ONS again ?? that's just wierd, we make fun of the guys that try to get her and its always fun with her, we relate... anyway...

The point is, if she's interested in sleeping with you, you don't have to do ANYTHING. Turn her on and she'll use the 'lines' to get you home, the only time it becomes complicated are if she is with a flock of man hating bvtches and there is no sure-fire way to defuse that one, its hit or miss... Even if you befriend the mother-hen, logistics get in the way.... Like one time my girl was the driver of like 5 other girls and I couldn't get her home, other time they are from out of town and its too far, ect.... sometimes its just not ur night...

I don't really work with 'chasing' they chase me, so maybe someone else can give you advice on how to extract with some lines or something, but I'd advise learning how to turn women on so that they are chasing you and tryna figure out how to bed YOU without looking like a slvt...

Also here's a little tip, call girls slvts to their face but in a sexy way... like whisper it to them, they love to feel dirty and nasty, girls love being slvts as long as you and her are the only two to know...

YOU: You're a little slvt aren't u, look at u... u can't stop can u... ur so dirty but luckily i like dirty girls... put my hand down ur pants right now


^ ^ You won't learn this until you've had a few relationships and you REALLY know what girls like, but don't worry with experience comes success !!

If you wanna get tail at the hottest clubs where I'm from you better look something like this..
Or where i'm from like this... :rock:




If you have no style, you have no chance... too many alpha males in the clubs where i'm from



-Cod3r
 

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Cod3r said:
The club I most frequent are consistently 1000+ population, 6 floors (salsa, reggaeton, west indian, rap, pop, trance), maybe that's why i'm not understanding wat u guys find so hard about clubs... I go into the west indian room and its just as easy as walking directly to the girl you want, taking her hand, throwing her up against a wall and do what u want...

I remember one white girl with these HUGE tits, man i walked right up to her and put my hand on them and we're grindin with both hands just feeling those juicy suckers.

My most memorable ONS, I saw this Italian female (HB7) and i approached her and said somethin madd funny, we both started cracking up. From there danced for a few songs (if u get more than 2 dances, u should be hookin up) and so I knew she was down for the hookup, took her upstairs on some couches and proceeded for some groping and harder kissing, once she felt my rod was hard, she said she was tired and she'd take me home...
Geeeee...what did I SAY?
wayword said:
Unless you're Black or extremely "studly"-looking, no women will give you the time of day in your average club here.
You're Black picking up White chix in Black-music clubs. You are getting RACIALLY-PROFILED by WHITE GIRLS with JUNGLE FEVER. I rest my case.

You can't and never will understand "us guys," until you wake up one day NOT BLACK. Then try to hook up in those same clubs and you will UNDERSTAND, LOL! :crackup:

Every other guy in here can stick their head in the sand and say I'm BSing (as if girls are colorblind), but his post just proves my point to a T.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I havent been to the club yet.

it sounds like you're putting too much emphasis on the pick-up at the club though.

Why not go just to have a good time?

and if you cant have a good time, why go at all?
 

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^^^ I know we say this all the time, but we are winging together. My last exam is Feb 10th then I have a huge break.
Yeah just let me know, I graduate in the spring, then headed to Japan with the lady for 2 weeks :woo:

You're Black picking up White chix in Black-music clubs. You are getting RACIALLY-PROFILED by WHITE GIRLS with JUNGLE FEVER. I rest my case.

You can't and never will understand "us guys," until you wake up one day NOT BLACK. Then try to hook up in those same clubs and you will UNDERSTAND, LOL!

Every other guy in here can stick their head in the sand and say I'm BSing (as if girls are colorblind), but his post just proves my point to a T.
So I have an advantage being black ?? First of all this isn't a 'BLACK' dance club that i'm talking about, more white people frequent this clubs than anything else, its NYC, you've got blacks, whites, hispanics, indians, out-of-towners, azn's, everything....

Also, who says I only hook up with white girls @ the club ?? The hottest girl I ever got (no sex tho) was French and Hispanic, most are hispanic, then azn's then whites, I even got an East Indian girl one time. I will say yeah it is easier with white girls because most of the white guys in the club are just standing against the wall, while the rest of us are on the dance floor having fun.... they don't have anyone to show them a good time, white guys act intimidated all the time... or stay in little groups and just drink...

Who's fault is that ?? THE GUYS !!

LoL the white girls I hook up with have jungle fever eh ?? Funny how the last girl I hooked up with in the club had a white bf, and that's why she couldn't come home with me... lol ur hilarious bro...

Don't hate the color, hate the game


-Cod3r
 

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MHO. Nightclubs are not the places to meet decent women. I have felt this way for like 3 weeks now. Yes nice place to go to if you have a good build, or you are good looking. Most of the men that have the best girls look like they have steroids for breakfast. Now take a guy whose good in the nightclubs out of the club scene and lets see how good he is. I admit I suck at the night scene. too many women high on an ego trip and gunning down men just for the hell of it. Take that girl out of the club and see how hot she is when all that make up and those high heels come off.
 

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Agreed its an illusion, but why not live in that illusion for the night ?? :rockon:

PS
I'm sure we all have gf's that attend clubs from time to time are they "an illusion my friend..underneath all that make up and push up bra is a fugly-average person you wouldn't even stop to check out during the day time."



-Cod3r
 

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PlasticSurgeon said:
Your post reminds me of this conversation I had with this dude while i was p*ssing in the urinal drunk off my ass 2 weeks ago. I was like, "Oh damn those girls out there are hot." And he's like "It's all an illusion my friend..underneath all that make up and push up bra is a fugly-average person you wouldn't even stop to check out during the day time." I felt like I had just talked to the Buddha and had a deep religious experience.

That. Is. Awesome.

could it have been Pook?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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