"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Clubbing, Dancing and a weird situation

vp171s

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So tomorrow I'm going out for a friend's birthday party thingy. This girl is friends with a girl I'm after.

Anyways the game plan is, unfortunately, I have to pick them both up and we're meeting up with more people for dinner then clubbing.

So here's my little problem. I'm not big on the whole clubbing scene. Thus I'm not big on the whole dancing thing. The girl I'm after, kind of has 14 years of proffesional dancing experience, ballroom salsa etc. She's already offered me dancing lessons before in exchange for me helping her out in a class, so maybe this is a way to capitalize on it all?

Now obviously I don't plan to impress but what do you guys think would be an appropriate way to approach the whole thing? Obviously there is potential for things to get hot so I'm open to good ways to handle different situations.

Even though I'm driving I plan to get a few drinks in me just so I can losen up for the clubbing. After 2 hours of clubbing (or however long people club for?) I should be sober again.

So anything to avoid, maybe things to do?

It's kind of a new experience for me.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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realsmoothie

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Don't drink too much.

Act like you don't give a crap about not knowing about the fancy dancing. She has 14 years experience... she'll think she has something over you.
 

blinkwatt

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Just role with the music,copy other's movements. I know it can be uncomfortable,I dont listen to rap or hip hop ever,so all the music is new to me. Try to flow with the music and let her grind you. Trust me the chicks do 90% of the work in clubs. All in all it will be a learning expierence,so remember take it slow when you first get in there and observe others.
 

Tom Juan

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Try to follow her movements and let your body flow with hers. Drink a little bit of alcahol if it helps.
 
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