"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Yourself

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I own two pairs of shoes, I wear one to school, one to work...
My school shoes are not blindingly white nor shiny and brand new...
Most of my jeans have holes. (which is conveniant because that is 'in-style')

My wardrobe essentially consist of approximately 7 t-shirts, and a few shorts and pants, all jeans.

I don't shave often expressing my rugged man chin...

I guess the reason I brought this up, being farely new, what you guys thought about this subject.

Could this be another approach instead of the preppy 'look at me'(aeropastel/abacrombie) wardrobe approach everyone is going for. Maybe the manly worker look. Would that work?

I think if you have the right amount of confidence and atitude cloths don't matter at all really. Assuming you don't advance rockin' a clown suit.

By the way I just wanted to say that I have been coming to this for a while now, and am lookin forward to being a frequent member. Before I would just browse the DJ Bible and read post. So I bit the bullet and joined, ready and willing to make a revolution in my life. Very conveniant that I got this burst of ambition with summer coming up. This will allow me a fairly nice amount of time get back in shape and work on my skills for senior year.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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CrazyAsianBiker

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Alright....

Alright yourself.

In my opinion you are partially correct.

Clothes can make a GIANT impact.


A very close friend of mine actually that i just introduced into the philosphies of this place got a makeover.

His normal dress, Worn jeans, T shirt.

T shirt a bit too big, jeans pulled up.

Bad shoes. (No offense if you read this man hahahaha.)

But anyways...

Ok, So I give him a few pointers in dress.

Simple things, I asked him to spike his hair, to get a jacket, a belt buckle, some shoes and to relax himself out a bit. Guess what happened?

This guy got compliments DAILY. He came to me everday telling me how everyone is telling him that he changed and how they like it. HOT girls telling him these things. Total amount of money spent? About 60 dollars.

He didn't look like an abercromie clone.

You NEVER want to look like a clone, what you want though, is to have clean nice clothes that look sharp. You don't need to even spend a lot of money, just look sharp.

eg. Make sure your collar is straight, starch your clothes, stand up straight, and keep everything clean.

The only thing that really makes the kicker of a difference and i don't know why is your shoes. Always get a good pair of brand name popular shoes. It's worth the money. Keep them CLEAN.

DVS, ETnies, ADidas, Puma, etc. Something brand name on your shoes REMEMBER THAT. It's one of the worlds unsolved mysteries but always make sure you have good brand name shoes.

Other than that, it is the way you carry yourself in your clothes, but always invest in small things that make a big difference. Clothes do make a difference.

You don't want to look like everyone else, but you want to look sharp.

You don't have to spend a lot of money, just spend money on things that matter the most. Jacket, belt buckle and shoes.
 

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I wear dress pants. Dress shoes. Nice dressy looking button up shirts. I've responded to posts like this enough times that everybody should know this. I keep my hair short, clean shaven. I wear some nice smelling cologne. Girls LOVE this. I'm lower middle class, but I look like I'm a rich mother effer.
 

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CrazyAsianBiker said:
Alright yourself.
(No offense if you read this man hahahaha.)
No offense taken.. i know My t-shirts are not too big, and I know my shoes aren't that bad. But I don't see the need to prance around with my hair gelled up. I almost never gel my hair. and I don't think I will continue. But Belt Buckle isn't a bad idea, I have been wanting one for while.
 

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I agree with CrazyAsianBiker... The 2 brands of shoes that I have right now that I really like are my Puma's and K-Swiss Classics All White. It's deffinitely worth putting more money into a pair of shoes that are stylish and last longer than the cheap payless shoes that look bad, aren't brand stuff, and don't last that long.

I kinda switch shoes with whatever goes with my clothes. Sometimes I wear the Puma's with jeans because they go really, nicely. And the K-Swiss I wear with my Abercrombie shorts.

You'll just find what fits you. What may work for me might not be as good on you. Experiment around! ;)
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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You don't have to turn into a clone to look good, but you do need to expand your wardrobe past t-shirts and jeans. Polos for warm weather and collared buttoned shirts for cooler weather are both good to have, but that doesn't mean fill your closet with them. Mixing up your pants with khakis/shorts in addition to your jeans will make a difference, but again this doesn't mean buy a $100 pair of pants. Shoes, as everyone has said already, are important too. Though you might catch some flak if people find out, buying NEW shoes on eBay is an excellent way to save money on nice looking shoes. You can get $90 shoes for less than $30 as long as you have the patience for it.
 

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wear what suits your body and what you feel comfortfortable in

I wear every type of style... people like me for it and I look good in every style
normally at school I'll go in tight t-shirts but at parties I need to be comfortable to dance and also the bigger the better it looks so I go hip-hop
my jeans are always baggy, but at parties I make sure that I need a belt for them to stay on my waist so I can move my legs a bit

oh for my face, do your hair how it feels and looks good also...
I tend to just wax my hair a bit so it kinda looks like an afro with a lot of air in it... even thouigh I'm white, all my friends are black so sometimes I just shave my hair or put in cornrows to my hair
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Rocko

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Ok, what i do is not really peacock, but w/e. I don't give into what everyone else is wearing, which for some reason seems to be dark colors. To me that sends off an "I'm emo, I hate life" vive (although black can be awesome at times). My wardrobe normally consists of me being clean-shaven, a pair of jeans that fit me (preferable torn or faded), and a shirt that fits, that not many people have, and that is not of regular color (like light green, light yellow, light pink) something easy on the eyes. Shoes: Pumas or sandals, whichever. It doesn't cost a lot to look trendy, i buy all my **** at bargain stores where they have name brands for cheap, I have never spent more then 25 dollars on jeans and rarely ever more then 15 (max) on shirts. You are also right about confidence, i wear my **** with confidence and i get lots of compliments on em mostly because of that

http://i66.photobucket.com/albums/h243/shocker_beast22/new_york_121.jpg
 

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i used to wear ghetto baggy stuff, now i wear kinda preppy/beach stuff that fits me. i got MASSIVE compliments when i started wearing that stuff. just change your clothing style enough so it's noticable. your hair is up to you, some people naturally look good without gel, but styling your hair might make you look a bit sharper. yeah but like that dude said, it doesnt exactly matter what you wear, just look sharp, clean, and pull it off with style :cool:
 

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I just say dress as nice as you're comfortable with. I will be like the millionth person (and this is the 2nd time this thread) to emphasize looking as clean as possible. Try to steer clear of anything 'popular'. Chances are the ladies won't really be all that impressed.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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i just thought of wearing a tux everyday in school :D

would look pimp, hu?
 

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Well,have you seen the way the guys from the band Underoath dress?Or the guys in Saosin?Or how about dillinger escape plan?That's just how I dress.

I have 6 jeans (each different color and fade),some 25 tshirts (some of them with band designs,some polos,some plain white/black crews),2 khakis and around 10 shorts.These have taken me 3 years to collect.I don't know how many shoes I have,maybe 5 or 6.

Well,check out the way the guys in those bands dress.It's pretty cool.Don't dress baggy,that sucks.Look sturdy rather than flowy.
 
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UGH! I swear Underoath plays my town every 2 days. they are always playing here and it pisses me off...the singer from underoath came with another band on saturday called maylene...they all blow
 

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You look like who I thought you were, Darrell.
You damn hippy, you.
 

adit

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hahaha really?i've never seen underoath live lol.

its not like i like that band either..they just dress the way I do.LoL.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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