"Blank Mind on Dates? She's Dropping Hints You Keep Missing"
The plates get cleared and the silence lands like a brick. You can feel her waiting. Your brain offers up your commute, your job, the weather — topics that have ended more second dates than bad breath.
Here's what most guys never learn: women hand out free conversational material all night long. Tiny clues about what they actually want to discuss. Catch them and you never run out of things to say — because she's telling you what to say next.
Rule 4 of the "22 Rules" trains your ear to catch every single one.
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
ryanvalmont
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Just create ya own sytle...something new and cool
JT47319
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ryanvalmont
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ummmmm no!!,the hole idea is YOU WANT TO BE NOTICED!
Of course if you can;'t handle that JT then i guess that's cool for you
JT47319
Master Don Juan
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Teh funnay!
SIXPAKGQ
Don Juan
For example, I'm stuck with a black-ink tribal tattoo from 10 years back that starts at my wrist and extends up my arm. It was cool when I was 21 and hitting the rock clubs, but I've had my days since then wishing it was never there. I realized this "mistake" could be revamped into somthing impishly unique and enjoyable again by dressing sharp and using the clash created in appearance as an uncommon, perhaps mysterious edge.
Anyway, the point is that clothing is part of a bigger picture that creates an interest, and those other things need to be taken into consideration. You can take three identical triplets, put them in the same get up, and give each one a unique hair style and they will not all attract the same type of women.
So goes the same backwards. Same hair but different clothes and so on....
Just something to keep in mind as you shop around for garb.
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They look like cheesy stylish clothes.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
masteralios
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simple
jus wear clothes that u look good in and ur comfortable in
same clothes on different people can look way different
if its ur style and ur comfortable in it then the girls will be happy aswell
jakethasnake
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Those kinds of clothes are known as "peacokking" items, in SS terms. It's all about being as flashy as possible - this in principle works very well in a club setting, where one has to rely on visual cues to succeed in a pick up. In a club, it's all about your physical presentation, and this includes clothes. I agree that in a normal setting, 90% of the clothes at Internation Male are HOMO as fvck - you'd probably get stones hurled at you by frat boys.
But in a club setting, these clothes actually do work - provided that you have the mental edge - the bravado, the self-assuredness, the ****iness to make this work. It's all in the head, basically. The fact is that flamboyant clothes/appearances get you attention in clubs. And don't misunderstand - a lot people will think you're gay. Like most hetero men who just fear what they don't understand (hey PRL!
), and yes - even women. But that's where your unwavering masculine confidence and charm come in. No matter how 'gay' you look - if you approach women like a man and spit tight game at her, she should relent regardless. I actually used to peacokk A LOT (unfortunately. I used to peacokk like hell without understanding most or any pick up principles on this site and at SS) - I'd try to have the most outrageous designs and colors as possible, but after a while, I got bored - and actually dressing sensibly became a new challenge for me. I guess you could say that I went from dressing like a 'club wh0re' to a rocker/preppy look. I need to reassess my wardrobe - I get compliments on my style in non-club settings, but I've noticed (with some input from a few forum members here, one of whom I've been out with) that I merely blend in at clubs. While the International Male stuff isn't 100% my style, I believe that I can incorporate this stuff to a certain extent to mix with my regular wardrobe to achieve my "club look". Of course, I would keep that shyt seperate from my everyday/non-club clothes, coz frankly it DOES look gay. Not stupid gay - but 'a bit TOO stylish for a straight guy' kinda gay.
JT47319
Master Don Juan
So if you are boring, neutral, and otherwise a wallflower then yes, generic clothing like Abercrombie, BR, etc. will do. It will not, however, get you noticed or OPENED by girls.
But if you consider yourself fun and cool, well, one must then dress fun and cool. There are different styles, but the intent is to visually CONVEY YOUR PERSONALITY through your clothes.
So if you are a meathead, then DRESS LIKE A BADASS MEATHEAD. Girls love that archetype. If you are an Emo Rocker, then DRESS LIKE A EMO ROCKER. If you are a surfer type, then DRESS LIKE A SURFER.
But whatever you do, don't do it half-assed, one foot in a "uniquely personalized, make it your own dress style" and the other foot in "let's play it safe & generic so I don't get made fun because I'm not secure enough." Don't play it safe, be unique, be outgoing.
Whoever you are, you most VERBALLY and VISUALLY convey your personality in order for a girl to notice and be attracted to you. And another added benefit of serious peacokking with a unique style is that girls WILL OPEN YOU.
The ones I get opened on are some crazy punk items that I have, girls will just GRAB MY CLOTHES and be like, "Oh my god, I love that!" She's already done half the battle. Open, IOI, my turn.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.