"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Uncharted

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The best thing you can do is start working out (losing weight or putting on muscle). Then when you buy slim-fit (or whatever) clothes, they will fit you better and you will FEEL BETTER (more confident). You don't have to have a Zegna suit just basic clothes, but as long as it makes you feel more confident you're doing it right.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Yes. We care.
But mainly we care if you can fix yourself up
Can't go wrong with one good pair of well fitting jeans and a button down shirt
 

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Recently I've been going to Target and some other cheaper retailers and buy dress shirts. I'll bring them in to a seamstress and she'll tailor them to my body. $20 shirt with a $150-level fit.

Never go cheap on shoes....
 

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It depends on the girl. Some woman like certain styles. Some aren't too picky. It varies, really.

If I see a girl rocking some jordans and she's a 6 that alone would bump her up by .5 = 6 1/2.

If a chick likes you, digs you, and you dress up nice, good style, that bumps up her attraction level even more. If she's not that interested the effect is not the same.
 

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Cloths is incredibly important.

I often dress really lazy. Ie tracksuit old shirt shoddy shoes when I go to the mall. And I get no women checking me out.

But when it have nice jeans shoes and nice jersey. Get a lot of eyes from women.

Above all else I honestly feel a thousand times better about myself when I dress up.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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To be fair, I don't think it's a deal breaker unless you look like a tramp.

However you dress, 2-3 months into a relationship she'll make it her little project to 'align your wardrobe to her tastes' anyway :)
 

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Fit trumps everything. Make sure everything is not too baggy and you aren't swimming in your clothes. It just makes you look sloppy.

I buy 70% of my clothes from second-hand shops and get complimented on my style all the time. I will pay more for designer jeans but if you think about it, they will last a lifetime.

If you have no sense of style, find someone who does to go shopping with you.

Dress for yourself because it makes you happy.
 

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Jair213 said:
It depends on the girl. Some woman like certain styles. Some aren't too picky. It varies, really.

If I see a girl rocking some jordans and she's a 6 that alone would bump her up by .5 = 6 1/2.

If a chick likes you, digs you, and you dress up nice, good style, that bumps up her attraction level even more. If she's not that interested the effect is not the same.
Yep, gonna agree here. I definitely appreciate a woman who likes looking good and is up on her fashion game. But if a girl is up on her sneaker game too...bonus points for her. I definitely appreciate a chick in a pair of dunks, jordan 1s, or fresh chucks.
 
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