"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I was watching that show Confessions of A Matchmaker on A&E a few months back. On this particular episode I was watching, there was a 45 year old virgin AFC with all the excuses. AFC went on a date with a woman. This date went rather poorly. The matchmaker had a theory that the 45 year old was actually gay. He wasn't completely convinced about that, but agreed to go on a date with another man. The date seemed to actually go well. He never came out of the closet or anything, but the matchmaker was sitting there trying to convince him that he was gay saying "you are so obviously gay..."

My question is how many AFC types out there are actually closet homosexuals that are in denial or haven't figured it out yet?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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RockAndRollRefugee said:
I was watching that show Confessions of A Matchmaker on A&E a few months back. On this particular episode I was watching, there was a 45 year old virgin AFC with all the excuses. AFC went on a date with a woman. This date went rather poorly.
Maybe it's just the wrong girl. Is this the first date he ever went on in his life?


RockandRollRefugee said:
The matchmaker had a theory that the 45 year old was actually gay. He wasn't completely convinced about that, but agreed to go on a date with another man. The date seemed to actually go well.
What does 'go well' mean?

RockandRollRefugee said:
He never came out of the closet or anything, but the matchmaker was sitting there trying to convince him that he was gay saying "you are so obviously gay..."

My question is how many AFC types out there are actually closet homosexuals that are in denial or haven't figured it out yet?
I think there is less of a stigma with being gay then being a 45 year 'involuntary celibate' that just never got lucky. Furthermore, you have other sexual orientations that are non-sexual, which is the asexual category, so it's possible some people are neither hetrosexual or homosexual or sexual period and are just not interested in sex period or being sexual.

I can pull up a post here about a very successful DJ that was really gay on this following link.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=122871&highlight=gay

Here's an example of a guy who married, went with a whole bunch of different girls, and was an excellent player. On that token, I can ask the question, how many DJ's and Players are closet gays with a vendetta to break-hearts and hurt women and use them for sex in analogy to that person there.

It's easy to come to stereotypical conclusions about anything.
 

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Are gay men attracted to the way a man looks? I can't even imagine how somebody can not know what they are attracted to. I see naked woman I get boner. While men kind of disgust me.
 

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even though i never liked guys the possibility scared me when i was a virgin...lol and of course luke would defend this virgin afc life style
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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