"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I was watching that show Confessions of A Matchmaker on A&E a few months back. On this particular episode I was watching, there was a 45 year old virgin AFC with all the excuses. AFC went on a date with a woman. This date went rather poorly. The matchmaker had a theory that the 45 year old was actually gay. He wasn't completely convinced about that, but agreed to go on a date with another man. The date seemed to actually go well. He never came out of the closet or anything, but the matchmaker was sitting there trying to convince him that he was gay saying "you are so obviously gay..."

My question is how many AFC types out there are actually closet homosexuals that are in denial or haven't figured it out yet?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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RockAndRollRefugee said:
I was watching that show Confessions of A Matchmaker on A&E a few months back. On this particular episode I was watching, there was a 45 year old virgin AFC with all the excuses. AFC went on a date with a woman. This date went rather poorly.
Maybe it's just the wrong girl. Is this the first date he ever went on in his life?


RockandRollRefugee said:
The matchmaker had a theory that the 45 year old was actually gay. He wasn't completely convinced about that, but agreed to go on a date with another man. The date seemed to actually go well.
What does 'go well' mean?

RockandRollRefugee said:
He never came out of the closet or anything, but the matchmaker was sitting there trying to convince him that he was gay saying "you are so obviously gay..."

My question is how many AFC types out there are actually closet homosexuals that are in denial or haven't figured it out yet?
I think there is less of a stigma with being gay then being a 45 year 'involuntary celibate' that just never got lucky. Furthermore, you have other sexual orientations that are non-sexual, which is the asexual category, so it's possible some people are neither hetrosexual or homosexual or sexual period and are just not interested in sex period or being sexual.

I can pull up a post here about a very successful DJ that was really gay on this following link.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=122871&highlight=gay

Here's an example of a guy who married, went with a whole bunch of different girls, and was an excellent player. On that token, I can ask the question, how many DJ's and Players are closet gays with a vendetta to break-hearts and hurt women and use them for sex in analogy to that person there.

It's easy to come to stereotypical conclusions about anything.
 

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Are gay men attracted to the way a man looks? I can't even imagine how somebody can not know what they are attracted to. I see naked woman I get boner. While men kind of disgust me.
 

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even though i never liked guys the possibility scared me when i was a virgin...lol and of course luke would defend this virgin afc life style
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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