Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Plinco said:
Huh? In America men didn't change diapers. They didn't clean the house. They had the strength to keep their females from working. Many men married virgins. Divorce was extremely low. Females were not fat.Plinco said:
:crackup: :crackup: Yup, we've sure come a long way since the 20's.BigJimbo said:
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
BigJimbo said:
Plinco said:
He still makes a good point about the blurring of the gender gap. For men, things have gotten progressivelly worse since the 1920s.TyTe`EyEz said:
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You do realize that one day that things will change! They have to, for that is the law of the universe; individuals reap what they sow.TyTe`EyEz said:
Women pushing and getting the right to vote was the first step to the decline. Women are naturally self-centered and lack a sense of fairness. Once they got the vote being 51% of the populace, it was only a matter of time till they voted themselves all the money and influence. Women always had all the sexuality, manipulation and save-a-ho power. Now they have it all with economic and legal power, and men have nothing. It was more than fair for women in the 20's, still mostly fair for men in the 50's, but now it is totally in favor of women.^__^ said: