Clingy potential FWB.. How do I let her off.

[SpazzAttackk]

No no no, not the same girl from my previous fwb post..

Long story short. Was drunk at a party, met this girl and got her facebook and number. Shes ugly.. for lack of a better word. Anywho got drunk again one night and texted her. I woke up to find that I have a new FWB. Ever since then shes been blowing up my Phone and inboxing me on facebook.

Shes the depressed type with a hard life and I dont want to make it harder by leading her on, or by telling her that I no longer want to talk to her. She seems to have low self esteem.

The worst part? Apparently I set up a movie date with her tomorrow.. but I dont want to go and waste money. In fact I dont want to see or talk to her ever, I just dont wanna upset her and add more issues in her life. I have no problems telling her I cant make it tomorrow but how the hell do I tell her to **** off?

The hell do I do DJs.. shes facebooking me right now. Ive been ghost all day but she keeps messaging.

 

[PlayHer Man]

This is just part of the game as a DJ. You're going to get stalkers and clingers every once in a while. There are two ways to deal with them without having them go psycho on you:

1. Gradually fade away

2. Treat her like dirt until she leaves on her own.


With option one, you don't go total ghost, you just play the "i'm busy" game with them. Over time they get the idea and leave.

With option two you just use them for your benefit and nothing more. The whole relationship is on your terms. You tell them what to do, make them cook and clean, etc. You flirt with other girls in front of them and even bang other girls in front of them.

If you want a way out without hurting her feelings forget it. Its not possible. You can't reject someone and make them feel good about it. Also, you should not be afraid of hurting a girls feelings anyway. If she is an adult her emotional issues are not your problem. Its part of dating.. if she can't handle it she should stay out of relationships.

 

[Greasy Pig]

Just do what chicks do and flake, flake, flake.
They do it to us, so why shouldn't we once in a while?

 

[PlayHer Man]

Just do what chicks do and flake, flake, flake.
They do it to us, so why shouldn't we once in a while?

Hell yeah..

Absolutely.

 

[SpazzAttackk]

Im just gonna tell her that Im busy but she can come to my place. But I wont be able to pick her up.
Sounds like a bad idea right? No!
She lives far, and she probably wont want to come. Thus, loss of IL and it makes me look like I dont give a FFFF. She doesnt have a car so she would have to bus an hour and a half, and would think im a total douchebag for not picking her up.

And my car is in the shop.. all of a sudden.

 

[SpazzAttackk]

I Havnt Even Done Anything With This ***** Yet And She Wont Shut The **** Up Im Scared For My Life Ss. Im Scared.

^Now imagine that in all caps.

 

[AAAgent]

i told the current chick i was seeing as a fwb since she kept texting me like crazy and saying she misses me.

"Hey xxx, i think you're a great girl but i don't want to lead you on. I'm only casually dating right now."

Then whatever she says....you can respond to her when you want to as you are now both clear on where you stand (if she's okay with playing by your rules then great, if not who cares). She stopped texting me frequently as well but since the emotions got the better she basically physically agreed to a fwb (not verbally).

 

[SpazzAttackk]

Shes asking all her friends what type of hairstyle she should have for tonight on facebook.. like.. I dont wanna crush the *****. Shes clearly excited. God damnit. Im not DJ graduate yet.. too soft. I dont think the trip is worth it..

 

[Fatal Jay]

im glad this dude made this thread

I have two fwb that are getting too clingy, and I been pondering how to get them off my back

 

[Mr. Bond]

i told the current chick i was seeing as a fwb since she kept texting me like crazy and saying she misses me.

"Hey xxx, i think you're a great girl but i don't want to lead you on. I'm only casually dating right now."

Then whatever she says....you can respond to her when you want to as you are now both clear on where you stand (if she's okay with playing by your rules then great, if not who cares). She stopped texting me frequently as well but since the emotions got the better she basically physically agreed to a fwb (not verbally).

This is basically how I always end things with a girl. It's always worked out well. If it's a girlfriend, it's in person. If it's a FWB, it may or may not be in person.

They get pissed at first but after awhile they get over it and everything is cool.