"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Sofomore

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I have been consistently hooking up with my neighbor (we're both 19). Meaning about twice a week we end up in bed together. Other than meeting up for sex we dont really hang out much. I try to keep space by not contacting until I want to meet up. We arent together, just basically f-buddies.

About 2 weeks ago we went out together to a dance party. At this dance party we only danced with eachother. No serious PDA, just some fun dancing. Now Ive realized that at the last 2 parties we have only hung out together. We both enjoy our time together, but dont seem to "Search the field" when together.

Is this my fault in being too clingy?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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ThatMysteriousGuy

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Sofomore said:
I have been consistently hooking up with my neighbor (we're both 19). Meaning about twice a week we end up in bed together. Other than meeting up for sex we dont really hang out much. I try to keep space by not contacting until I want to meet up. We arent together, just basically f-buddies.

About 2 weeks ago we went out together to a dance party. At this dance party we only danced with eachother. No serious PDA, just some fun dancing. Now Ive realized that at the last 2 parties we have only hung out together. We both enjoy our time together, but dont seem to "Search the field" when together.

Is this my fault in being too clingy?
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If you mean by "basically f-buddies" you mean "i want her just to be my f-buddy and nothing else" you need to stop going together places and only being with each other.

No matter what she says (from the limited information you gave) she's already viewing you as future boyfriend and in a few months she's going to get pissed if you start doing things on your own and being with other girls instead of her when she's present.

So, unless you want her as a girlfriend you'd better limit your activities together to only visiting her for booty calls.

It's ok to dance with her sometimes so you aren't being a **** but ALWAYS dance with at least 2 other girls on those occasions.
 
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