"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Sofomore

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I have been consistently hooking up with my neighbor (we're both 19). Meaning about twice a week we end up in bed together. Other than meeting up for sex we dont really hang out much. I try to keep space by not contacting until I want to meet up. We arent together, just basically f-buddies.

About 2 weeks ago we went out together to a dance party. At this dance party we only danced with eachother. No serious PDA, just some fun dancing. Now Ive realized that at the last 2 parties we have only hung out together. We both enjoy our time together, but dont seem to "Search the field" when together.

Is this my fault in being too clingy?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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ThatMysteriousGuy

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Sofomore said:
I have been consistently hooking up with my neighbor (we're both 19). Meaning about twice a week we end up in bed together. Other than meeting up for sex we dont really hang out much. I try to keep space by not contacting until I want to meet up. We arent together, just basically f-buddies.

About 2 weeks ago we went out together to a dance party. At this dance party we only danced with eachother. No serious PDA, just some fun dancing. Now Ive realized that at the last 2 parties we have only hung out together. We both enjoy our time together, but dont seem to "Search the field" when together.

Is this my fault in being too clingy?
If you mean by "basically f-buddies" you mean "i want her just to be my f-buddy and nothing else" you need to stop going together places and only being with each other.

No matter what she says (from the limited information you gave) she's already viewing you as future boyfriend and in a few months she's going to get pissed if you start doing things on your own and being with other girls instead of her when she's present.

So, unless you want her as a girlfriend you'd better limit your activities together to only visiting her for booty calls.

It's ok to dance with her sometimes so you aren't being a **** but ALWAYS dance with at least 2 other girls on those occasions.
 
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