Clinger but good woman

[dk1990S111]

Trying to decide what to do in this case. Have this great woman that is hot as fvck, similar interests and in her own words always puts her man first.

Problem is she just recently asked if I wanted her as a gf, told her ya sure. But she’s already talking way in the future.

With how hot she is honestly would love to keep her around a while but don’t see things going very far into the future with her. Don’t want to be an ahole that wastes her time though when she’s legit a good person that trusts me.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Trying to decide what to do in this case. Have this great woman that is hot as fvck, similar interests and in her own words always puts her man first.

Problem is she just recently asked if I wanted her as a gf, told her ya sure. But she’s already talking way in the future.

With how hot she is honestly would love to keep her around a while but don’t see things going very far into the future with her. Don’t want to be an ahole that wastes her time though when she’s legit a good person that trusts me.

Get what you want out of the relationship. What is it that makes you think longer term won't work or is it that you just don't know her well enough yet? How many times have you been out with her?

 

[Black Widow Void]

Best thing to do is communicate. I dated one that wasn't exactly a "hottie" but I'd give her an "8" on the scale. She was confident and attractive, yet clung to me like a 'fattie with no options' (and my former gal had plenty).

I can relate to your story because I enjoyed her company (but in smaller doses than she did, mine) and she was also a nice person. Be sure to not let alcohol do some 'in the moment' regretful talking. Also, keep visits less frequent. Unfortunately, this may also increase her desire for you.

You can also apply a 'cousin' formula to the old "it's me not you" scenario. By doing this, you can basically, talk of past light hearted situations going more favorably than those of long-term commitment. Chance are, initially, she'll only hear what she wants to hear, but if it's brought up enough and in different variation (and your actions are consistent) the message will eventually come across.

Cheers for having consideration for another. This doesn't seem to be a common practice among many forum members.

 

[Tilex]

How old is she?
It sounds like she hasn't reached her bitter and jaded stage yet.
I would keep her if I were you.

 

[dk1990S111]

@BackInTheGame78 been out maybe 5 or 6 times since just before Halloween.

@Black Widow Void thanks for the advice on saying things to try to get the point across to her. Will definitely try that. Definitely feel like being involved with her now it’s kinda a lose-lose for me. She is really into me and really wants a future. Break it off now and at least she can continue looking for someone to fill that role.

@Tilex shes young 40s, by all means she should be jaded based on her past experiences. Problem is with her age I can’t see long term because I’d eventually like a son (only if I was 100% sure I found the right woman for that). Not going to happen with this one.

 

[Mazer]

From my experience, these types of women want to move fast with every man they meet. You are nothing special, just the next guy she wants to lock down. She will do it with the next guy. Just see where it goes but I wouldn’t stop spinning plates until you fully get to know her and then you can think about it, obviously don’t let her in on your plan. Good luck

 

[derby1]

Hit women are not clingers

the tricks in making her think shes a 4

 

[BeExcellent]

Advice from the old lady:

You want kids. Really she’s high risk for healthy children. So she isn’t a woman who can provide what you want.

The kind thing to do is cut her loose. This frees you up to find a younger woman who can bear healthy kids, and frees her up to find a man who is not looking for children.

Using her for sex & validation wastes your time & her time. Using her for sex is what harms her for a man who might really appreciate her.

Be honest about what you want. Be honest with her. Three years ago I had a couple of dates with a hot man who was a physical therapist. On the 3rd date he noted how he wanted a wife & to be a father one day.

I dropped him immediately. I knew I wasn’t his girl since I’m done having children. He was super into me & we remain friendly when we run into each other. But he’s found a hot Latina veterinarian who he will likely marry. She’s in her 30’s. She’s a lovely woman from a good family & is a great match for him.

I didn’t want to waste his time or mine. And he was freed up to find the right woman for his long term goals.

Let her go. For both your sakes.

 

[17 shots]

she just recently asked if I wanted her as a gf, told her ya sure

Tell her she can be ONE of your girlfriends. A lot of women don't mind sharing, but you have to keep it player. At her age I'm sure she's not even expecting a young guy to make his life all about her

When you keep it player they either stay or walk, but that's ok. Part of the game is letting them go

 

[derby1]

shes young 40s,

she knows shes done on the market , men will use as her a sperm toilet only...hence her clingy behaviour

 

[stovepipe]

More times than not, whenever a dude posts "she's hot as fuk" has red flags awaiting him.

 

[EyeBRollin]

How is this a problem OP? She’s hot and all over you, right? You’d rather a selfish, jaded bytch?

 

[dk1990S111]

How is this a problem OP? She’s hot and all over you, right? You’d rather a selfish, jaded bytch?

Ya sounds great but I just don’t want to make her think there’s a long term when she’s past the age of having kids. Know that down the road I’d have to leave her and feel bad that I’d have wasted her time, normally wouldn’t worry about it but since she isn’t a jaded bytch I do feel bad lol