"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Clear sign of intrest still??

drake

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As you all I know I have been working with my ex and we have been broken up for 5 months now and had an 8 month relationship.

I told her I had feelings for her still before we started to work together and she said lets just see where it goes. That was a month ago. Well, the other day we were out working, and she was being a little more then friendly AGAIN. Grabbing my butt.........touching and stuff. I told her to not do that....and she just played it off.

Then we were in this house and no one was there, she hops up on the counter while I was checking over her inpsection and tells me, "see, if we were together we could do it right here, right now". I was floored. Then on the way home she says, see we can hang out and be ok. I told her that is because I now think like she thinks, and see her as just a friend. She replies with,"you dont know what I am thinking". Ok, I thought.

So on the way home, we get into a little water fight in my jeep. When we get to my house she says, you know I am going to have to walk around naked while my shirt drys. I said no, I will get you a shirt.
So we work while the shirt drys. She heads back down to get it out of the dryer. She is in my basement for like over a minute. I walk down there,and open up the door and she is sitting there in her bra getting ready to put the shirt on. Im like ok!! She clearly heard me coming down the stairs and was an arms reach away from closing the bedroom door, but didnt!! We just kinda looked at each other and nothing was said.

Clearly, this is not friend behavior. But my questions is, could she just be doing all this because she knows that I feel for her still and it strokes her ego?? I told her a month ago, but she surely must still know. A week ago, she said that she is still attracted to me also. But nothing is going any further. Is she scared of me, because I broke up with her?? I dont know what to do here. Sometimes she acts like were friends, then we hang out and she is like this!! I dont reciprocate!! So I dont know how this is doing her any good. I feel like it is her way of keeping me interested. Then part of me thinks that she wants me to take that next step again. I dont know. Help here guys!!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Why would you leave her just to return to her and tell her that you want her back - now she knows that you lust for her and she is teasing you and showing you what you want (her flesh/sex) but what you cant have!!

You gave her power over you and she using using it for her entertainment at your expense!! Never tell an ex-girfriend that you still like her - keep it to yourself. You can make a move on a girl without verbalizing it beforehand! Quit toying with her and pay no mind to her silly little "catch me if you can" games!!

Personally, I think she is toying with you - don't give her the gratification!!
 

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she's definitely toying with your mind.

DO NOT let this get to you, just act like whatever she says or does is not gonna turn you on or make you think otherwise.

just ignore her whenever you can and do your own thing.
 

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got you thinkin about her...lolz...she's doign her job...now...do yours and ignore the Biatch
 

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well

Well, I would like to believe that you guys are all correct but today shedded some more light on the situation.

She basically is telling me that I have everything that she wants now, and that she is scared. She is not able to move on with other guys because she still thinks that we have what it takes, we just are not using it.

She said its hard to move on when we are so compatible, never fought and are extremely attracted to each other. But still nothing is being done. Today she got really jealous when my phone rang and she looked at it and it was a girl I am kinda seeing. She questioned me forever asking if I am dating. I just played it off.

She needs to sh!t or get of the pot pretty much. Or maybe I need to make a move. I dont know. I broke up with her last time because I thought it was not the right time for me. That is the only reason I want to give it another go. If we werent compatible I would not be on here talking to you guys.
I am unsure what to do here!!!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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she wants to know that she can still have you when she wants you. Basically shes playing mind games.
 

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Re: well

Originally posted by drake
Well, I would like to believe that you guys are all correct but today shedded some more light on the situation.

She basically is telling me that I have everything that she wants now, and that she is scared. She is not able to move on with other guys because she still thinks that we have what it takes, we just are not using it.

She said its hard to move on when we are so compatible, never fought and are extremely attracted to each other. But still nothing is being done. Today she got really jealous when my phone rang and she looked at it and it was a girl I am kinda seeing. She questioned me forever asking if I am dating. I just played it off.

She needs to sh!t or get of the pot pretty much. Or maybe I need to make a move. I dont know. I broke up with her last time because I thought it was not the right time for me. That is the only reason I want to give it another go. If we werent compatible I would not be on here talking to you guys.
I am unsure what to do here!!!
sorry! didnt read this!

Hon she is still playing games with you but Im guessing she does care. She wants you there for when shes ready.

Tell her you are seeing someone. Maybe it will make her make her move and realise what she might miss out on.
 
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