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Cleaning out the notes in my computer, found some tips

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If you love her more than she loves you, then she has the power.

Women are turned off by anxiety in men.

Believing in an outside authority lowers your anxiety, but it divorces you from your own self-interest and turns you into a proverbial sheep.

Girls must want to have sex with a man, otherwise it is emotionally taxing on them.

Sex comes easier when you are happy.

Women are typically externally motivated while young, then internally motivated once they realize that they are 'rich'
 

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But now I ask: Where is Love in either's desire to control and exercise power over the other?
I was thinking in terms of supplication.

Here's another I found:

Expressing oneself as a weak and arrogant man (unearned confidence) is a way to gaslight women, in a sense.
 

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These notes are useless just sitting on my computer so I'll share them here. These are based on my observations and thoughts






psychopaths are most likely to survive war with their mental faculties intact. While war may dull the conscience, it will not eliminate it from those people who are not psychopaths.


Look at people as children, not in a condescending way, but excuse the faults of others without getting angry


Being who you are and overcome weakness is the coolest you can be.


You must visualize in your future and believe in it.


Times were good when anxiety was low.


If you did not have free will, then you would not get tired from focusing.


Thinking in essentials is the programming the subconscious mind so that the perfect mind can be automatized. This forms a context, a frame of the perfect mind.


An institution must be both successful and enforced, to be strong.


Being an honest sales man is a key personality trait in being independent. Dishonest sales people are dependent on others.


If you must be motivated, either by fear or incentive, you are doing the wrong job.


For those who depend on globalism, whether for economic, or security reasons, the new disorder is like an extinction event.


For those dependent on modern liberalism (Marxism), whether to justify the demoralization, or depending on societies “understanding” criminals, for the re-moralization of American is a death sentence for them.


In expressing oneself, remember:


To debate to destroy the person.


be prepared to give specifics. Don't always defend generalized statements.


utilize "not an argument"


Facts don't care about feelings.


You don’t have to oppose to create change. Strive for the change and continuing with your goals, while accepting others. It’s like social ju jitsu.


if someone accuses you of being an amateur by associated you to have weak knowledge, then do the same to the person in a way that is clever and humorous.


“Destroy the soy”


“in some alternate universe this guy is getting laid”


The foundation of a meme is the truth


  • Mysticism is socially acceptable insanity
  • In art is the same problem. People are expressing themselves in such a way that protects their self-esteem.
  • There are whole industries dedicated to propping false self-esteems; it keeps humanity chained to this planet.
  • When people give advice, they are really projecting themselves. Same is true for politics
  • People who promote authority and collectivism instinctively know that they live off others.
  • psychologically ill people have false identities, and therefore false self-esteem.


Truth offends the weak


Many women become insecure when a man expresses himself independently, or expresses standards, or does not want older women. Why? That man represents resources they can’t get when they expected to. Women don’t respect the nice guy, but some women really don’t like a nice guy turning into a not so nice guy.


In anything politics, such as entertainment, the operative standard is not so much reality, but perception. Powerful institutions are the first movers in formulating those perceptions, and they have a vested interest in keeping people mystical.



Most people do not function well outside of slavery.


Just because you don’t give power to something does not mean you hate it. Think of this like children do it.


Independence is a requirement of masculinity


women are a reflection of permissiveness. Women behave the way they do when institutions give them as much resources.


stress and anxiety are a result of not achieving one’s values. In other words, the closer you are to acting who you are, the less stress.


‘toxic masculinity’ is about women being inconvenienced by men


sex is the physiological response to someone’s core convictions
 

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Sexual orientation a physiological response to one's core convictions.
 

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How to turn my life around by BELIEVING I can get laid with hotter chicks? I think I have confidence / anxiety issues
 

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How to turn my life around by BELIEVING I can get laid with hotter chicks? I think I have confidence / anxiety issues
That's a great point. If you don't believe in yourself it won't come to you. This is when you must work on yourself, find who you are, what makes you confident, what are your talents, build your physique, develop your wordplay.
If you have a real confidence issue I recommend starting a martial art and preferably one with a sporting element where you can practice in real-time against live opponents.
 

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How to turn my life around by BELIEVING I can get laid with hotter chicks? I think I have confidence / anxiety issues
Why would you believe that you can get laid with hotter chicks? Also, why would getting laid with hotter chicks turn your life around?
 

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Cleaning out my computer again.


A hyperbolic way of understanding the conformist/external authority cognition is that you can peer pressure them into believing that the sky is yellow. If the axiom is society, there is no objective reality.

expectations adjust as a result of observation. Personal experience is powerful in shaping convictions.

Trying to compensate for a certain age, means that aspect of yourself is fighting to survive. The stronger the conviction, the stronger the stimuli (trauma) + stronger the overall survival instinct.

Be careful not to rob the young woman of her experience of being young. Experiences are competitive. How does the experience you provide compete with another experience?

If you want exceptional results, you must put in exceptional effort.

To argue in favor of an ethics for the purpose of adhering to the whims of society is an ethics that begs for altruism and thus is counter to survival.

I think that people who view ethics as innate (societal perception) are those who perceive people’s emotional states, and use that as the axiom.

women judge people and things by an emotional gestalt evaluation. It’s fast and easy, but terrible for understanding abstractions (this is why women’s understanding of themselves is only good on the superficial level). Typically these evaluations are correct on the superficial level.

Knowledge is a possession, it is earned. That’s why companies and inventors have patents.

Does your psychology pass the logic test?

Scorn the followers

direct opposition is usually not the most effective.

At the top of the bs promoters are parasites, they need others to live off of. If a person deliberately creates followers, then he is an evil personal

There is no mind body dichotomy. Philosophy drives a person’s convictions, which drives a person’s emotional responses.

politics:
Poly = many
tics = blood suckers

For beta males, it is easier to think that they need to be transnational because they have learned not to respect themselves. (?)

Everyone is bluepilled unless they are honest. It is a matter of principle. You lie once to yourself and you have taken the blue pill.
 

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Effective idealists are realists.
 

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This is an article I wrote

The importance of communication

Thinking is communication; men are comfortable thinking and communicating one way and women are comfortable with thinking and communicating in another way. Men generally do not communicate emotions. After all, men have to deal with the real world constantly; men need to think in a more logically. Men have to be concerned with finances, security, reputation, politics, and this list goes on. In most cases, women on the other hand do not have to worry about any of this besides their reputation. Women transmit feelings when they talk, especially when talking among other women.

Women are very capable of thinking logically, but choose not to. Why you might ask? Women derive power over other people this way. This is for two reasons, first, emotions are slipped in unknowingly to men as to direct their though and communicative patterns, also known as sub-communication, and second, to make their communication unclear (or as clear) to communicate whatever ‘understanding’ or lack thereof, they want to convey. Most men fail when talking with women because they are communicating logically without understanding what women are saying non-logically.

To communicate non-logically (sub-communication) take practice. To talk to a woman directly you have to learn how to sub-communicate emotionally while at the same time directing the conversation; again, this is because women feel comfortable communicating emotionally to gain power over others while thinking non-critically (dis-empowering) herself. Psychologically, this is akin to a compulsive gambler who cheats in a casino. Women are conditioned to believe this is normal from a young age; it uses nature’s communication mechanism that is given to girls based on the formation of the female brain, and it has always been used as to normalize this form of cognition.

Since women are comfortable with emotional sub-communication, women build rapport with less effort this way. Women think sub-communication is superior to logical communication, after all, they derive power over other people by talking like this. Generally, women respect emotional sub-communication over a more straight-forward approach. Women punish men who communicate logically. In this way, women are expressing their decadent, animal selves.

Women feel what you feel for two reasons: first, because again, of the tendency of thinking in automatic, non-critical way, and second, because women biologically develop the brain that is adapted for emotional communication. If you want her to feel something, you have to feel something yourself. If you are productive, you will have a more positive view on the world, and if you know and accept who you are, you will build self-respect. Positivity and respect are cornerstones in social relationships.

Respect is everything

Respect is one of two things: fear or admiration. Admiration is an emotional response that depends on the person’s convictions. Whether something is worthy of admiration or not depends entirely on context. Fear, like admiration is also an emotional response that depends on the person’s convictions.

The ability to cause either fear or admiration is the essence of getting power over other people. Most of the time people default to non-critical thoughts and feelings, so understanding their context for either fear or admiration is predictable and easy; it is easy to gain power over other people if you can direct people’s emotions.

The first step in getting respect from others is to respect yourself. Only you can do that, but you have to live your life in a way that you can respect, that means being aware of what your values are. Next (remember these), Purpose, Clarity, Action, Consistency. Your values determine your purpose, you think about your goals with clarity because that’s the only way you will achieve them, you take action because that’s the only way to raise your self-esteem in the long run, and you maintain consistency because that’s how you are going to be good at something.
 

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Red pill = comprehending reality for what it is

Blue pill = dis-integration, or mis-integration of reality

Purple pill = mental gymnastics of trying to integrate reality with fiction

Black pill = Acknowledging reality, but refusing to integrate with it
 

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First thing that has to happen is that the woman has to be sexually attractive to you.

Second, you display your value by performance. She must feel that you are better than her overall.

Third, it’s the woman who needs to demonstrate interest in you, personally and sexually. Only if she displays sufficient interest in you can you upgrade her to relationship materiel. This must be calibrated socially and personally; it cannot be taught on a forum.

In a relationship, don’t ever give her the emotional security of commitment. You have to play a little dread game, again this has to be socially and personally calibrated.

You must feel like you are the one in control in the relationship, if you don't feel like you are in control chronically then end it.

The woman is more responsible for maintaining a romantic relationship than you are. If you are putting more effort into the relationship than she is, then end it. Another way of explaining this concept is if she is less loving than you are, in which case there is a lack of respect coming from her.

It's good for a woman to feel anxiety and fear, but not good for a man to feel that way. If you feel chronically anxious then there is something wrong with you. Beware of women who do not feel any fear around you. A woman should never feel in charge of you, if she does then you really need to examine why.
 

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Facts don’t care about your feelings.

Don’t talk about your feelings. Telling a woman how you feel is a sign of weakness and lack of social intelligence. Now the woman knows exactly what your positions are and has control over the situation.

You have to be above her, not just act like it, but really believe it. Being mysterious and challenging is a good start, as well as making significantly more money than she makes.

She should be trying to initiate dates with you.
She should be trying to prove herself to you.
She should be the one having to explain herself to you.
She should be the one pushing for commitment.
She should be the one chasing you.
She should be the one who is in love with you.
She should be the one who feels fear and anxiety over you.

She only wants commitment from the man whom she loves. If you push for commitment, then it will appear desperate and will turn her off.

You should be the one in control and not acting on emotions. A man who controls himself is very powerful. If you show more emotion than she does, she will lose respect for you.

Most people do not respond to reason as effectively as emotion, and that’s because they don’t know how to think properly.

Once a woman finds you unattractive, she will never be really attracted to you in the long term.

In a relationship, she must fear losing you.

Commitment from a man lowers anxiety in women, but also turns them off sexually. Successful civilizations had to control women’s sexuality in order to produce sufficient children to compete with other civilizations. You can control a woman’s sexuality while at the same time make her feel sexually attracted to you, the problem is that doing so is basically illegal. Setting boundaries is a good start but unfortunately with a lot of women that’s not enough.
 

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Red pill = comprehending reality for what it is

Blue pill = dis-integration, or mis-integration of reality

Purple pill = mental gymnastics of trying to integrate reality with fiction

Black pill = Acknowledging reality, but refusing to integrate with it
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