"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Atom Smasher

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Do you remember what I told you in another thread, that you come off as a beggar?
Your behavior here bears that out. Why were you seeking her approval instead of flipping the script and getting her to want to impress you?
I hope that someday it will click for you.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Cheeky_James

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Sounds like you need to enjoy the process and stop being in such a rush. My interpretation.
yeah.
I defs need to ask the ch1ck what she’s open to /wants primarily first - then calibrate my approach to that on the date.
I was unsure if this ch1ck wanted a NSA hookup or more than that. I didn’t have time to discuss w her in the chat before we bounced to a date .
So I just ran that game but it was a mismatch.

Some chicks are straightforward.. don’t mind my escalation and not bothered re connection much cos they just want a few laughs and to get down to biz that night. (Hookups)

important to clarify that beforehand !!
 

condonrekema

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Does anyone here know of any guides or resources specifically about day game? I can usually do well at a salsa or bachata place at night or when going out with friends, but I don't really like staying out late because of my beauty sleep and fitness. So, most of the women I’ve met lately have been through Hinge or work-related events, which isn’t ideal. Also, since I’m new in town, I don't have any friends to go sarging with.
 

Cheeky_James

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Do you remember what I told you in another thread, that you come off as a beggar?
Your behavior here bears that out. Why were you seeking her approval instead of flipping the script and getting her to want to impress you?
I hope that someday it will click for you.
dude , there are different scenarios.
You are missing some context.
That flipping of the script is done early on the app chat anyway, not on the date.
And if a chick indicates a strong desire for me , there is no need to do the “impress me “ thing.
That overcomplicates and fvcks fhings up.
If the situ is an NSA hookup.. no need to do that.

@condonrekema
Day game is quite tough. I only do that at daytime social events . Festivals etc where there is a party atmosphere , alcohol and dancing etc tbh. Maybe bookstores and cafes also are good locations to seduce other types of women sometimes too ..

I don’t know of any good dedicated DayGame guides tho tbh. Never come across one.

well, in saying that Strauss’ book had some DayGame scenarios. That’s pretty solid.
 
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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