"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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In some interview Matthew McConaghey (sp?) was asked how a woman can tell if a guy is really into her. He said "if he'll do something really stupid when she asks him to."

Gotta wonder what the effects of that sage advice will be on the self-esteem of some gals as they notice that no guys with much value are "really into them". ;)
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Bonhomme said:
I"if he'll do something really stupid when she asks him to."
This pretty much describes 90% of the male population.
 

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Its actually true. A man WILL do some dumb sh!t for a girl he really likes. Of course noone wants to admit this, because its some dumb sh!t. But I find it endearing. "Awww... he likes me!" But I am a sweetheart, not some cold calculating b!tch looking for any sign of weakness so that I can come in for the kill...
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Bonhomme said:
In some interview Matthew McConaghey (sp?) was asked how a woman can tell if a guy is really into her. He said "if he'll do something really stupid when she asks him to."
Can anyone say "propose?" :whistle:

:p
 

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He is a celebrity. He doesn't need game.

He can just walk into a bar and tell the hottest girl in there "I wanna **** you. I'm Mathew McConaghough (sp?)" and she will still go home with him.
 

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Well he's engaged to a latina supermodel so I think you still need some game for that.
 

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ChrizZ said:
He is a celebrity. He doesn't need game.

He can just walk into a bar and tell the hottest girl in there "I wanna **** you. I'm Mathew McConaghough (sp?)" and she will still go home with him.
I've known lots of hot women turn down celebrities because they weren't charming or cool in real life. Turned them off straight away.

But then again I've also know lots of other women who have slept with them anyway.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Nighthawk said:
I've known lots of hot women turn down celebrities because they weren't charming or cool in real life. Turned them off straight away.

But then again I've also know lots of other women who have slept with them anyway.
I have an idea.

Why don't we all become rock stars or actors?!. :yes:
 

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iqqi said:
Its actually true. A man WILL do some dumb sh!t for a girl he really likes. Of course noone wants to admit this, because its some dumb sh!t. But I find it endearing. "Awww... he likes me!" But I am a sweetheart, not some cold calculating b!tch looking for any sign of weakness so that I can come in for the kill...
Maybe when I was a kid. But not as a MAN. A MAN is NOT controlled by anyone.
 

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But I am a sweetheart, not some cold calculating b!tch looking for any sign of weakness so that I can come in for the kill...
Don't lie.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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iqqi said:
But I find it endearing. "Awww... he likes me!" But I am a sweetheart, not some cold calculating b!tch looking for any sign of weakness so that I can come in for the kill...
Maybe so, but did the guys to whom you actually were most attracted do that if you asked them to?

(I'm not talking about stupid romantic gestures, I'm talking being "led by the nose")
 

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Bonhomme said:
Maybe so, but did the guys to whom you actually were most attracted do that if you asked them to?

(I'm not talking about stupid romantic gestures, I'm talking being "led by the nose")
I've asked guys who I was considering but not sure about, to do some pretty AFC crap. If they did it, it told me that they cared more about me than their reps. The best part is watching them struggle internally. Lol. I don't mean that in a mean spirited way... its touching. AND this is a huge confession, I'd NEVER let this on to anyone in real life.

I go all out for anyone I care about in LTR's, so I need to see a little something before I let it get too far. Call it a sh!t test.

Think of Janet Jackson's character in the opening scene of Poetic Justice, where her gangster boyfriend brings her back her Jujubees, or whatever it was she asked for. Then he got some booty... or he was going to get some, before he was shot to death.
 

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iqqi said:
I've asked guys who I was considering but not sure about, to do some pretty AFC crap. If they did it, it told me that they cared more about me than their reps. The best part is watching them struggle internally. Lol. I don't mean that in a mean spirited way... its touching. AND this is a huge confession, I'd NEVER let this on to anyone in real life.

I go all out for anyone I care about in LTR's, so I need to see a little something before I let it get too far. Call it a sh!t test.

Think of Janet Jackson's character in the opening scene of Poetic Justice, where her gangster boyfriend brings her back her Jujubees, or whatever it was she asked for. Then he got some booty... or he was going to get some, before he was shot to death.
Asking a bloke to pick up some jujubees or something like that is a reasonable request, if you're not inconveniencing the guy to an unreasonable degree.

An example of unreasonable is when gals called me out of the blue to give them a ride from somewhere, and it was not a real serious emergency and/or their own foolishness got them in the situation. Ixna, nada, sux2BU ....
 

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Bonhomme said:
An example of unreasonable is when gals called me out of the blue to give them a ride from somewhere, and it was not a real serious emergency and/or their own foolishness got them in the situation. Ixna, nada, sux2BU ....
That's mean.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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