Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
well technically one of the commandments ( i don't know which one because im not a great christian lol) says "thou shalt not commit adultery." the definition of "adultery" is sex OUTSIDE of marriage. aka beforeBible_Belt said:The bible clearly indicates that you shall never have sex before you marry.
No, it doesn't. Your pastor will very clearly tell you not to, but the Bible says no such thing. Jesus said to not be 'sexually immoral' and left it at that. Paul's letters in Corinthians have been interprted as a ban on pre-marital sex, but he was writing those letters to a people known for having wild pagan orgies. They used prostitute priestesses and sex as part of their pagan worship, which is mostly why Paul is so against 'fornication.'
I would challenge anyone who thinks the Bible includes a ban on pre-marital sex to find those words in the actual book. Here is a link to search:
http://www.biblegateway.com/keyword/
Read the Song of Solomon. Sex, in and of itself, is not bad or dirty. But like anything else, taken to extremes it can be a bad thing. Similar to alcohol, it can be used or abused. Most people can handle it, others destroy their lives with it. It's what you do with it that matters.
Nighthawk said:Sorry for the misunderstanding BB, I was referring to the post before your eloquent and knowledgeable one!
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
(JJ) said:well technically one of the commandments ( i don't know which one because im not a great christian lol) says "thou shalt not commit adultery." the definition of "adultery" is sex OUTSIDE of marriage. aka before
First of allantidonjuan said:I want to have these men characteristics and to be your definition of a DJ but the forum is all about attracting woman and seduction and sex and tecniques! Please tell me why that is the case if a DJ is about being a true men and not about women # techniques.