You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
well technically one of the commandments ( i don't know which one because im not a great christian lol) says "thou shalt not commit adultery." the definition of "adultery" is sex OUTSIDE of marriage. aka beforeBible_Belt said:The bible clearly indicates that you shall never have sex before you marry.
No, it doesn't. Your pastor will very clearly tell you not to, but the Bible says no such thing. Jesus said to not be 'sexually immoral' and left it at that. Paul's letters in Corinthians have been interprted as a ban on pre-marital sex, but he was writing those letters to a people known for having wild pagan orgies. They used prostitute priestesses and sex as part of their pagan worship, which is mostly why Paul is so against 'fornication.'
I would challenge anyone who thinks the Bible includes a ban on pre-marital sex to find those words in the actual book. Here is a link to search:
http://www.biblegateway.com/keyword/
Read the Song of Solomon. Sex, in and of itself, is not bad or dirty. But like anything else, taken to extremes it can be a bad thing. Similar to alcohol, it can be used or abused. Most people can handle it, others destroy their lives with it. It's what you do with it that matters.
Nighthawk said:Sorry for the misunderstanding BB, I was referring to the post before your eloquent and knowledgeable one!
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
(JJ) said:well technically one of the commandments ( i don't know which one because im not a great christian lol) says "thou shalt not commit adultery." the definition of "adultery" is sex OUTSIDE of marriage. aka before
First of allantidonjuan said:I want to have these men characteristics and to be your definition of a DJ but the forum is all about attracting woman and seduction and sex and tecniques! Please tell me why that is the case if a DJ is about being a true men and not about women # techniques.