"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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choosing between 2 girls

2nd_Chance

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So yeah, I am stuck... choosing between 2 girls. I am 100% sure both like me, and both want to be with me. Great. And I sorta like both.

ARGGG.. this pisses me off. I don't owe anything to either, but... how the hell am I supposed to pick? I liked it somewhat better when I was chasing the chicks... not them coming after me, cuz rejecting someone sucks just like being rejected does.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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strey

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who says you have to reject one of them, do them both and come back and tell me how good it was and how i was right
 

DavenJuan

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SPIN PLATES...

you dont know which you would rather be with which leads me to believe that you dont know them all that well.

which also means you dont need to be settled down with one over the other. HAVE FUN. enjoy them both and make sure to explain that you have no plans right now to be committed.

TRUST ME,
chances are that IF they like you and arent specifically looking for a LTR, then they may not object to this when you are straight forward.
 

Huffman

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Yeah, just don't decide too early.
You know how this goes, as soon as you give yourself to one girl exclusively, both will lose interest and you'll be left with nothing.

This kind of social proof plays a very big part in you being attractive.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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