"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Reykhel

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Gents, when you are so desperate for a woman and what she can "bring to your life", take a moment to consider what she can take from your life..

This doesn't only apply to women but it applies to the friends and family you entertain in your life.

Nobody can avoid "negative" people or situations and people who tell you that you must be "positive" all of the time are not living in reality. You can visit your dark side and explore and pull the trigger. It's not a question of avoiding and cutting off people.....

For me personally I had to learn to be super selective with whom I let into my life....however, given the nature of life I cannot just switch off the world and say no. People are here, people are real...

but who is running this ship. is it me or is it them..,..

Why is this psycho blue haired bytch suddently knecking my 21 year old redbreast? I let her in..

Why is my "friend" suddenly asking me for money and "giving me advice"? I let him in...

Fvck these cvnts.they have the potential to drag you down. don't invite them in......

learn to be choosy......and watch what happens
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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ohrein

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There's an old adage that you are the sum of the five people you spend the most time with. I'm not sure if it's true, but it's good advice either way. Pick people who elevate you and improve your life. No one's perfect but there are some great people out there.
 

ImTheDoubleGreatest!

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Humans are social creatures. We cannot just get rid of our desire to interact with others, lest we lose a part of ourselves in the process. I learnt that the hard way....fortunately something pulled me back.

I have seen the strongest of people become influenced by the current eventually. I tried making myself as strong as I could. I realized that I needed to be tougher too (and yes, there is a difference between strength and toughness). I couldn’t do it. Fate didn’t want that of me. My brother is naturally tough minded and hard to change. My own parents said that they’ve never known someone in their whole lives to be like him. He isn’t easily influenced at all, ever since he was a kid. Very proud. But I saw him change and become negatively influenced by the current once he decided he somewhat cared about having fun and socializing with others. It took a long damn time and with some really intense world-class mind fvckery battering him day by day, but eventually he did change. Maybe it’s just because of his age though. But we’ll know for sure within the next several years.

Point is, it’s very important to be careful with the people you surround yourself with, and to be wary of the overall environment you are in too. It takes a very special kind of person to be able to resist the flow of society for a long time. But there is no fully sane person who can resist it forever.
 

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Tell me who your friends are and I will tell you who you are.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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