"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Childhood Crush Wants to Meet Up...

foomee

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So recently she broke up with her boyfriend of four years and she mentions that she's trying to see what else is out there. We communicate all this through facebook, so I haven't talked to her in person in maybe 4 or 5 years... it's been a while, we're both in college, and we're home for summer.

I say:
maybe we'll hang out one of these days, grab a bite to eat, catch up on old times, ya know, the usual.
She Says:
that sounds great! i would love to grab lunch and catch up/think back on old times :) just let me know when you're free and in town.

Should I change it to dinner or something? We both had huge crushes on each other when we were young, but that all faded away since I was a year older, we both went our separate ways. But she mentioned that she'd wanna grab lunch... if anyones seen the movie "just friends", he mentions that friends go on lunch dates, and people that were more than friends go on dinner dates. I know I'm making it a bigger deal than it should be, but any advice on this situation?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Skel

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Id ask for a picture first :p 4 years can be brutal to the human physique :)
 

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foomee said:
Should I change it to dinner or something? We both had huge crushes on each other when we were young, but that all faded away since I was a year older, we both went our separate ways. But she mentioned that she'd wanna grab lunch... if anyones seen the movie "just friends", he mentions that friends go on lunch dates, and people that were more than friends go on dinner dates. I know I'm making it a bigger deal than it should be, but any advice on this situation?
If you don't have game, then neither lunch or dinner would matter.

It sounds to me like its a friendly get together. Try to gauge her interest in you when you meet in REAL LIFE and not based on the things she says on facebook.
 

foomee

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Skel said:
Id ask for a picture first :p 4 years can be brutal to the human physique :)

I know for sure I've changed a lot... but she hasn't changed much. It's through facebook, so she has pictures of herself up. Being a softball player, I've noticed she has gained a little weight, her arms are fairly big, bug she's not chubby status yet. Haha... she could probably beat me up tho :p
 
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