"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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foomee

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So recently she broke up with her boyfriend of four years and she mentions that she's trying to see what else is out there. We communicate all this through facebook, so I haven't talked to her in person in maybe 4 or 5 years... it's been a while, we're both in college, and we're home for summer.

I say:
maybe we'll hang out one of these days, grab a bite to eat, catch up on old times, ya know, the usual.
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She Says:
that sounds great! i would love to grab lunch and catch up/think back on old times :) just let me know when you're free and in town.
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Should I change it to dinner or something? We both had huge crushes on each other when we were young, but that all faded away since I was a year older, we both went our separate ways. But she mentioned that she'd wanna grab lunch... if anyones seen the movie "just friends", he mentions that friends go on lunch dates, and people that were more than friends go on dinner dates. I know I'm making it a bigger deal than it should be, but any advice on this situation?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Id ask for a picture first :p 4 years can be brutal to the human physique :)
 
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foomee said:
Should I change it to dinner or something? We both had huge crushes on each other when we were young, but that all faded away since I was a year older, we both went our separate ways. But she mentioned that she'd wanna grab lunch... if anyones seen the movie "just friends", he mentions that friends go on lunch dates, and people that were more than friends go on dinner dates. I know I'm making it a bigger deal than it should be, but any advice on this situation?
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If you don't have game, then neither lunch or dinner would matter.

It sounds to me like its a friendly get together. Try to gauge her interest in you when you meet in REAL LIFE and not based on the things she says on facebook.
 
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foomee

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Skel said:
Id ask for a picture first :p 4 years can be brutal to the human physique :)
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I know for sure I've changed a lot... but she hasn't changed much. It's through facebook, so she has pictures of herself up. Being a softball player, I've noticed she has gained a little weight, her arms are fairly big, bug she's not chubby status yet. Haha... she could probably beat me up tho :p
 
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