Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Chicks with prejudice?

oneboy21

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I came across a weird situation yesterday
I was talking with a girl on okcupid .com and we had a normal coversation
she was new to the city just like me, and she was bored at home as i am,
so after a 30 minute talk i suggested we should get together.
when i said that she just disappeared, she went silent and didn't talk to me.
the next day(Sunday), she im's me and says sorry about yesterday.
i told her it was rude for her to ignore me like that, she tells me she felt awkward talking to me because i was Indian. she tells me its her first time talking to some one like me. i forgived her and suggested we should meet. she told me she would let me know.
i asked her number, for which she gave me.

how do you guys deal with a situation like this
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Iceberg

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You got all emotional and called her rude for ending an internet conversation?

You gotta loosen up, man. You dont even know this broad.

Secondly, if she has prejudice what can you do about it? It's not your job to make her into a decent, accepting human being.

If she agrees to meet you, then obviously you should continue to do whatever has been successful for you. If not, then f**k it.
 

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i called her rude the next day when she imed me
so true, i am not going to tolerate it dude.
 

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oneboy21 said:
i called her rude the next day when she imed me
so true, i am not going to tolerate it dude.
Tolerate what? Some girl you don't know ending a conversation with you?

You think she owes you a "Good night. Sweet dreams?" If some chick got mad at me for something like that, I'd tell her to f**k herself. If I've never even met her, I don't owe her sh*t.

Maybe I'm just numb to this stuff, but...who cares?

I'm just saying, you're not going to get far with this whole "dating" lifestyle if you're emotional about small things like this.
 

pdx1138

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Women do this all the time with online dating.

Get used to "rude women."
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Im with OP. A girl abruptly ending a convo because of my ethnicity is a huge red flag.
 
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