Big Neil for being a narcissistic a-hole who bragged about paying strippers
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Chicks Keep Asking Me For Money (Sick Of It)!
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
MoreThanSmooth
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Sorry if this is necromancy, but just to add my 2 cents: I've found women respect me more if I don't pay for stuff for them. If I'm in a relationship it's different (I think it's only decent to pay her meals/outing costs every now and then, and sometimes I'd buy her small gifts without prompting just to express affection. Ideally she'd also be doing the same for me).
But my personal rule is that if any girl wants me to buy her material stuff as an actual part of our relationship, she's a waste of my time and attention. I don't care if she's a gorgeous model, that doesn't mean she can just turn me into a meal ticket. If you're just a dollar sign to someone, you're not going to get their respect.
IMO once you start buying stuff just to keep a girl hanging out with you, you start becoming like those basement dwelling guys that spend all their money buying random camgirls they'll never meet s**t because they're desperately horny. Even if you have sex with her, it's not you she's screwing, it's your wallet.
If a hot girl thinks you're a meal ticket and you put your foot down and say "Halves?" she knows you're not a cash cow. If she's a genuine money leech she'll move on to a dumb guy with a fat wallet (no loss to you). If she's a cool girl who was just trying it on because she knows she's hot, she'll probably be impressed by your balls and like the fact you're not trying to buy her.
But my personal rule is that if any girl wants me to buy her material stuff as an actual part of our relationship, she's a waste of my time and attention. I don't care if she's a gorgeous model, that doesn't mean she can just turn me into a meal ticket. If you're just a dollar sign to someone, you're not going to get their respect.
IMO once you start buying stuff just to keep a girl hanging out with you, you start becoming like those basement dwelling guys that spend all their money buying random camgirls they'll never meet s**t because they're desperately horny. Even if you have sex with her, it's not you she's screwing, it's your wallet.
If a hot girl thinks you're a meal ticket and you put your foot down and say "Halves?" she knows you're not a cash cow. If she's a genuine money leech she'll move on to a dumb guy with a fat wallet (no loss to you). If she's a cool girl who was just trying it on because she knows she's hot, she'll probably be impressed by your balls and like the fact you're not trying to buy her.
devilkingx2
Master Don Juan
this is the main problem with picking up girls using your money, if it lasts past hookups then you gotta actually spend your money on her
if you get the girl with just looks and charm whilst pretending to be a hobo or something you won't have this problem
if you get the girl with just looks and charm whilst pretending to be a hobo or something you won't have this problem