"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Chick who used to love the fickle single life now hates it in the COVID era

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I’m living my peak singlehood. In the Before Times, I was always casually seeing and/or fighting with some lucky man. Now, for the first time in my life, I’m not only single; I’m incapable of changing that. Meanwhile, romantic cohabitators have ascended into the most heightened form of coupledom.
There isn’t space anymore for the type of dating I used to like best: casual, in between. The only two options left are Alone and Together.
my opinion: Honey, you better hope your eggs don't expire before COVID goes away. :cool:
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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There has always been a gulf between single & unattached people and people in relationships. Very few social circles will have single/unattached people and married people in them. Unmarried, established couples have dual citizenship. They can fit in with the marrieds, and they are not usually too far removed to have some single & unattached people in their circles, but the longer they stay together, the fewer single & unattached people they'll know.

Quarantine was worst for the single & unattached people. Also, the post COVID mating environment is going to be rather tricky to navigate. The mating environment was already bad pre-COVID, but COVID is putting in a new layer of challenge. There's going to be two strong forces at play....

1. The societal programming of mask wearing and physical distancing
2. The pent up sexual demand from quarantining alone and having a lot of new singles on the market with a lot of divorces and breakups occurring due to COVID.

It'll be fascinating to see how it all plays out.
 

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Notice how in the article, the younger woman in her 20's is talking about how it's hard to imagine a night without her significant other, while the older woman is talking about how the issues in her marriage are now heightened due to the quarantine.

the "honeymoon" phase in relationships always ends. This woman who is writing this article won't feel so bad 8 years down the line (or sooner) when she's still standing but her previously happy friend is divorcing. she needs to stop looking at social media and realize that COVID is going to have long term implications for people who think they are blissfully happy right now. When women in their mid 20's are in some relationship that seems "perfect", they often end up crying later that "he wasn't who i thought he was" or some bs like that.
 

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The honeymoon phase is usually 6 months to 2 years at most. There can still be a good relationship post honeymoon phase, but it's rare that you'll see a meaningful sexual relationship lasting more than 5 years. Once a relationship hits 5 years, the couple can often be considered glorified roommates who only have sex a couple times a month.

A lot of longer term couples with weak, glorified roommate type relationships are either breaking up or divorcing due to Coronavirus.
 

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The honeymoon phase is usually 6 months to 2 years at most. There can still be a good relationship post honeymoon phase, but it's rare that you'll see a meaningful sexual relationship lasting more than 5 years. Once a relationship hits 5 years, the couple can often be considered glorified roommates who only have sex a couple times a month.

A lot of longer term couples with weak, glorified roommate type relationships are either breaking up or divorcing due to Coronavirus.
In all of my real relationships we fvcked almost daily for over 5 yrs. The only issues sprung up with controlling types.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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In all of my real relationships we fvcked almost daily for over 5 yrs. The only issues sprung up with controlling types.
3 different relation spanning 19 yrs. Fvcking daily and loving the sex is possible.
 
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