"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Chick who used to love the fickle single life now hates it in the COVID era

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I’m living my peak singlehood. In the Before Times, I was always casually seeing and/or fighting with some lucky man. Now, for the first time in my life, I’m not only single; I’m incapable of changing that. Meanwhile, romantic cohabitators have ascended into the most heightened form of coupledom.
There isn’t space anymore for the type of dating I used to like best: casual, in between. The only two options left are Alone and Together.
my opinion: Honey, you better hope your eggs don't expire before COVID goes away. :cool:
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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There has always been a gulf between single & unattached people and people in relationships. Very few social circles will have single/unattached people and married people in them. Unmarried, established couples have dual citizenship. They can fit in with the marrieds, and they are not usually too far removed to have some single & unattached people in their circles, but the longer they stay together, the fewer single & unattached people they'll know.

Quarantine was worst for the single & unattached people. Also, the post COVID mating environment is going to be rather tricky to navigate. The mating environment was already bad pre-COVID, but COVID is putting in a new layer of challenge. There's going to be two strong forces at play....

1. The societal programming of mask wearing and physical distancing
2. The pent up sexual demand from quarantining alone and having a lot of new singles on the market with a lot of divorces and breakups occurring due to COVID.

It'll be fascinating to see how it all plays out.
 

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Notice how in the article, the younger woman in her 20's is talking about how it's hard to imagine a night without her significant other, while the older woman is talking about how the issues in her marriage are now heightened due to the quarantine.

the "honeymoon" phase in relationships always ends. This woman who is writing this article won't feel so bad 8 years down the line (or sooner) when she's still standing but her previously happy friend is divorcing. she needs to stop looking at social media and realize that COVID is going to have long term implications for people who think they are blissfully happy right now. When women in their mid 20's are in some relationship that seems "perfect", they often end up crying later that "he wasn't who i thought he was" or some bs like that.
 

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The honeymoon phase is usually 6 months to 2 years at most. There can still be a good relationship post honeymoon phase, but it's rare that you'll see a meaningful sexual relationship lasting more than 5 years. Once a relationship hits 5 years, the couple can often be considered glorified roommates who only have sex a couple times a month.

A lot of longer term couples with weak, glorified roommate type relationships are either breaking up or divorcing due to Coronavirus.
 

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The honeymoon phase is usually 6 months to 2 years at most. There can still be a good relationship post honeymoon phase, but it's rare that you'll see a meaningful sexual relationship lasting more than 5 years. Once a relationship hits 5 years, the couple can often be considered glorified roommates who only have sex a couple times a month.

A lot of longer term couples with weak, glorified roommate type relationships are either breaking up or divorcing due to Coronavirus.
In all of my real relationships we fvcked almost daily for over 5 yrs. The only issues sprung up with controlling types.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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In all of my real relationships we fvcked almost daily for over 5 yrs. The only issues sprung up with controlling types.
3 different relation spanning 19 yrs. Fvcking daily and loving the sex is possible.
 
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