"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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So I've known this girl when I first got to college. I've known her for about 5 months now, but making the move was difficult for obvious reasons: we barely spent time alone cuz she is also friends with my roomie, she goes home on weekends where as I stay at college, and we both were recovering from our ex's..

Fast forward a few months. I asked her to a dance here at college where she replied: "We don't need dates for this ball," and than I said "Yeah we do-do you wanna go with me?" She said "yes." But we never eventually went cuz she had to babysit and her friends were not going. Both I believe to be true stories. She also never stayed on the weekends when I asked her to, because she went to visit a different college to visit her ex and his friends, but no longer does. She also has a lack of friends here because she goes home. She now commutes and visits me and my roomate every few days.

She may like me because we walk out of class together, I neg her, and I told mega eye contact with her. I am confident over the phone with her, and stuff like that. She asked me to run a few errands with her and I did. She came in and took a nap on my roomates bed, and I wanted to join her but she playfully turned me down. Why? Lack of interest or she did not want to feel slutty I guess?

This weekend we have a night class together and she needs a place to stay. She wants to stay in my roomates bed cuz he goes home for the weekend. I told her she should join me in my bed, but she said she will take his bed. Now:

How do I somehow show interest in her and ask her out? It's very difficult since she is not around much and we don't have much time alone?

How will I make my move this Friday when we will def. be alone? I want this girl as a gf, and be in a relationship with her and jumpin into bed with her prly does not signify that?

What do you guys think?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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What do you guys suggest I should do without making it awkward? I want a relationship with this girl, but if she at least offered to stay in the room, (along with no where else to go apparently). I have mixed signals, and hopefulyl she likes me here.
 

TheBucketOfTruth

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What mixed signals? She doesn't sound that into it. You asked to join her in her roommate's bed and she said no. You asked her to sleep in your bed, she said no. She went to visit her ex instead of staying over any of the weekends. Where are the mixed signals? The only positive response she gave was saying yes to the dance, but then didn't/couldn't go anyway. Her not completely ignoring you and actually talking to you isn't an automatic sign of any romantic interest. If anything, maybe she is into one of your roommates?
 
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He's got a gf so she can joke about it all she wants. She laughs a lot, and we hit each other playfully. I'll take that as a sign of interest. And she did say yes to the ball, but had prior commitments which I believe are true.

We have gone to lunch and went on a walk before, and she does call once in a while, likewise with me.

And if she slept with me, without dating me, I believe that would make her feel trashy. Today, she kept saying "eww" when I talked about doing stuff, and how "I want it" with me objecting cuz I won't admit it to her with him in here as well. Maybe, I should say, "If I want it, how do i get it?" :X I wanna make a move without making it seem awkward, but can't find a moment. We are going to a nightclass tomorrow, and she supposely is sleepin here but not with me apparently. We'll see...

Any tips on tomorrow and if I should proceed making a move?
 

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If I was in your shoes I would at least cool it off, reel myself in a bit. Insanity is to keep doing the same thing and expecting different results. I don't know if I would withdraw my attention altogether, but I would certainly cool it when I was around her. If you push and she is unresponsive, then she might be getting desperation from you. More mystery and fun, less talk of sex and subsequent Attachment to Outcome.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Yeah, thing is I don't see her everyday. 3 days a week for a very short time, including class. I have known her for 5 months, and we joke aobut each other's ex's. We used to wrestle playfully, but that was in the past. I don't see any other guys suiting her, so I can't see why I don't attract her...
 

The_411

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5 months man sounds like you may have skipped right past your window

Start dating another girl like now.
 
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