"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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So I've known this girl when I first got to college. I've known her for about 5 months now, but making the move was difficult for obvious reasons: we barely spent time alone cuz she is also friends with my roomie, she goes home on weekends where as I stay at college, and we both were recovering from our ex's..

Fast forward a few months. I asked her to a dance here at college where she replied: "We don't need dates for this ball," and than I said "Yeah we do-do you wanna go with me?" She said "yes." But we never eventually went cuz she had to babysit and her friends were not going. Both I believe to be true stories. She also never stayed on the weekends when I asked her to, because she went to visit a different college to visit her ex and his friends, but no longer does. She also has a lack of friends here because she goes home. She now commutes and visits me and my roomate every few days.

She may like me because we walk out of class together, I neg her, and I told mega eye contact with her. I am confident over the phone with her, and stuff like that. She asked me to run a few errands with her and I did. She came in and took a nap on my roomates bed, and I wanted to join her but she playfully turned me down. Why? Lack of interest or she did not want to feel slutty I guess?

This weekend we have a night class together and she needs a place to stay. She wants to stay in my roomates bed cuz he goes home for the weekend. I told her she should join me in my bed, but she said she will take his bed. Now:

How do I somehow show interest in her and ask her out? It's very difficult since she is not around much and we don't have much time alone?

How will I make my move this Friday when we will def. be alone? I want this girl as a gf, and be in a relationship with her and jumpin into bed with her prly does not signify that?

What do you guys think?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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What do you guys suggest I should do without making it awkward? I want a relationship with this girl, but if she at least offered to stay in the room, (along with no where else to go apparently). I have mixed signals, and hopefulyl she likes me here.
 

TheBucketOfTruth

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What mixed signals? She doesn't sound that into it. You asked to join her in her roommate's bed and she said no. You asked her to sleep in your bed, she said no. She went to visit her ex instead of staying over any of the weekends. Where are the mixed signals? The only positive response she gave was saying yes to the dance, but then didn't/couldn't go anyway. Her not completely ignoring you and actually talking to you isn't an automatic sign of any romantic interest. If anything, maybe she is into one of your roommates?
 
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He's got a gf so she can joke about it all she wants. She laughs a lot, and we hit each other playfully. I'll take that as a sign of interest. And she did say yes to the ball, but had prior commitments which I believe are true.

We have gone to lunch and went on a walk before, and she does call once in a while, likewise with me.

And if she slept with me, without dating me, I believe that would make her feel trashy. Today, she kept saying "eww" when I talked about doing stuff, and how "I want it" with me objecting cuz I won't admit it to her with him in here as well. Maybe, I should say, "If I want it, how do i get it?" :X I wanna make a move without making it seem awkward, but can't find a moment. We are going to a nightclass tomorrow, and she supposely is sleepin here but not with me apparently. We'll see...

Any tips on tomorrow and if I should proceed making a move?
 

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If I was in your shoes I would at least cool it off, reel myself in a bit. Insanity is to keep doing the same thing and expecting different results. I don't know if I would withdraw my attention altogether, but I would certainly cool it when I was around her. If you push and she is unresponsive, then she might be getting desperation from you. More mystery and fun, less talk of sex and subsequent Attachment to Outcome.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Yeah, thing is I don't see her everyday. 3 days a week for a very short time, including class. I have known her for 5 months, and we joke aobut each other's ex's. We used to wrestle playfully, but that was in the past. I don't see any other guys suiting her, so I can't see why I don't attract her...
 

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5 months man sounds like you may have skipped right past your window

Start dating another girl like now.
 
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