“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Chick texts me back after almost 9 months

TARKUS

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I met this chick online in 2010. She told me she was moving back up north with her family which is 8 hours away from me. But would come back to visit friends and stuff. We mostly texted and talked on the phone a few times. She texted me a lot more than I texted her. She sent me sexy pics of herself in her bra and took more risque pics. She has a bangin body and is someone I wanted to bang haha.

Last year she came down to visit friends and wanted to hang out with me. We met one day in between my break of classes and work. Had a drink and chilled for a while. We made out a little before I had to go. She said we should get together when I come up or when she comes back down.

She still texted me and stuff after that but about a month later I didnt hear from her for a week or so. One day I texted her that I was going past her to visit a friend and we could hang out if I'm in town.

Got a text back from her saying that she is starting to date some new guy.

So I thought whatever and deleted her number. That was like May of last year. Got a random text from her yesterday. I had to think for a minute who it was.

"Hi xxxxxx! This is xxxxxx! I know it's been awhile since we talked and for all I know this might not even be your number anymore! I just want to apologize for just up and disappearing on you! It was rude of me and I honestly don't expect to hear back from you! I hope all is well" :) xxxxxx

Guess she is out of the relationship with the guy. She wants to hear from me or she wouldnt of sent the text. I'm Surprised that she still had my number after all that time or would text me that she felt like she had to apologize. Should I even bother to text her back? maybe i could still get that bang haha.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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If I were you; I would. If she started up and dated a new guy while living nearby you, I would not. However, you can't compete with a guy near her while she's 8 hours away, so you aren't nearly so much of a 'fall back' as it would appear otherwise. It was just a bad situation. She's obviously still interested after 9 frickin' months, a bang's certainly possible.
 

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only if you have no other plates. she's 8 hours away.. what do u expect

the disappearing act was disrespectful.. she'll do it again
 

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donking said:
only if you have no other plates. she's 8 hours away.. what do u expect

the disappearing act was disrespectful.. she'll do it again

I agree that it was. I don't expect anything except maybe a hook up. Never really gave it a thought. I have other plates. Thought it was strange to text after 9 months and still have my number. That is why I posted here. It's not like she can't meet or date other guys close to her.
 

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Plutoman said:
If I were you; I would. If she started up and dated a new guy while living nearby you, I would not. However, you can't compete with a guy near her while she's 8 hours away, so you aren't nearly so much of a 'fall back' as it would appear otherwise. It was just a bad situation. She's obviously still interested after 9 frickin' months, a bang's certainly possible.

That is true but it was still rude how she went about it. I don't really need a chick that lives 8 hours away to talk to until we get a chance to chill.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Should I even text her back or just ignore it? I dont even know when we would hang out and i'm not going to be texting again.
 

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How much can you lose by texting her versus how much can you gain by it?

Put it in perspective. Never know. Maybe she's moving back, maybe she'll be visiting, maybe she's already visiting. If you really are just not interested, then don't text; but I presume you are interested since it warranted a topic about it. A week isn't much of a disappearing act, either.
 

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to me this looks like she just broke up with her " new guy" ( as you called it) and is looking to fook.

why would she text you after 9 months? she digs you bro and is looking for the c0ck.

so get on it. your best bet would be to try get her to come down here.. maybe get a cheep hotel if your logistics suck and just fook her then drop her.

there a saying for this i use.

" never say no free weed"

or in your in your case. poontang
 

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Plutoman said:
How much can you lose by texting her versus how much can you gain by it?

Put it in perspective. Never know. Maybe she's moving back, maybe she'll be visiting, maybe she's already visiting. If you really are just not interested, then don't text; but I presume you are interested since it warranted a topic about it. A week isn't much of a disappearing act, either.

I could gain something. Then again I couldn't. It warranted a topic because I was just curious why she would text after 9 months. Especially since she has other guys near her and why she would text me out of the blue. A week? It was almost 9 months since I last heard from her.
 

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Packers2010 said:
to me this looks like she just broke up with her " new guy" ( as you called it) and is looking to fook.

why would she text you after 9 months? she digs you bro and is looking for the c0ck.

so get on it. your best bet would be to try get her to come down here.. maybe get a cheep hotel if your logistics suck and just fook her then drop her.

there a saying for this i use.

" never say no free weed"

or in your in your case. poontang

Thats what I thought as well. I just didnt want to get involved again with the distance thing. She is a good looking girl and there is plenty of other dudes that would jump on her in a second. 9 months is a long time to dig back in the vault ya know?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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TARKUS said:
I could gain something. Then again I couldn't. It warranted a topic because I was just curious why she would text after 9 months. Especially since she has other guys near her and why she would text me out of the blue. A week? It was almost 9 months since I last heard from her.
The point being - what are you losing? Shoot a few texts back and forth, if it's a no deal, you've lost 5-10 minutes at most. Nothing more.

If it's a good deal, then you've gained a good lay.

I see no reason NOT to gamble. If she's thinking of you after 9 months, then you must have made a damn good impression and she wants you.
 

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Girls are dumb as sh!t.

I agree with what some other posters said.. you have nothing to lose by communicating with her.. just keep your emotional distance.

Find out if she will be in town or is willing to visit. If the answer is NO.. then move on and forget she exists.
 

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its good she told you otherwise you wouldve wracked your brain out trying to find out what she wanted. now that shes back, **** her and chuck her
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I agree with the rest of the guys. Text her back and set something up. Get the long awaited bang you wanted and move on.
 

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Ok Thanks. Sounds good guys

I'll go ahead and what happens this time
 

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Just wanted to update that she is coming down to visit in 3 weeks
 

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TARKUS said:
I met this chick online in 2010. She told me she was moving back up north with her family which is 8 hours away from me. But would come back to visit friends and stuff. We mostly texted and talked on the phone a few times. She texted me a lot more than I texted her. She sent me sexy pics of herself in her bra and took more risque pics. She has a bangin body and is someone I wanted to bang haha.

Last year she came down to visit friends and wanted to hang out with me. We met one day in between my break of classes and work. Had a drink and chilled for a while. We made out a little before I had to go. She said we should get together when I come up or when she comes back down.

She still texted me and stuff after that but about a month later I didnt hear from her for a week or so. One day I texted her that I was going past her to visit a friend and we could hang out if I'm in town.

Got a text back from her saying that she is starting to date some new guy.

So I thought whatever and deleted her number. That was like May of last year. Got a random text from her yesterday. I had to think for a minute who it was.

"Hi xxxxxx! This is xxxxxx! I know it's been awhile since we talked and for all I know this might not even be your number anymore! I just want to apologize for just up and disappearing on you! It was rude of me and I honestly don't expect to hear back from you! I hope all is well" :) xxxxxx

Guess she is out of the relationship with the guy. She wants to hear from me or she wouldnt of sent the text. I'm Surprised that she still had my number after all that time or would text me that she felt like she had to apologize. Should I even bother to text her back? maybe i could still get that bang haha.
Ok, there are two OPTIONS for you at the moment.

1) You can tell her to f*ck off or completely ignore her since she disrespected you by flaking on you and at the same time going out with another guy putting you off her PRIORITY list. You became her EXCESS BAGGAGE that she needed to DUMP because she went to GREENER PASTURES. Basically, you meant NOTHING to her. So, if what i just wrote dosen't offend you then you can pick OPTION NO 2.

2) Leave your EGO behind and go along for the ride. You can reply to her and accept her OFFERS. You never know what might happen. There's a possibility that you could get a lay or two in the process. But at the same time she might FLAKE OUT on you again. It seems like it might not have worked out with the other guy or she's cheating behind his back. Does not matter either way. Go for it.

Yours Sincerely,
Sir_Laid_A_Lot
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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