You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I'm all in favor of a mature conversation. Any time you are inclined, consider starting one with me.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
That girl is chunky as hell and isn't top tier. I wouldn't holla at her if she threw it at me.
Dude if a chick you don't know from a can of paint OLD profile sets you off to E.R. mode then it's better off you never meet.
^^This 100%.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I can take one look at her body and tell - she's about to get a whole lot fatter as soon as she is in a relationship. I bet she's 300 pounds in about ten years.
I never invested in chicks profiles when at times I was using POF for the goof. I'd email almost any chick just to pass time, amuse myself, and verify what I suspected about the vast majority of them. Broken. Didn't matter who the chick was. If hot, average etc. They were ALL screwed up. To me it didn't mean I was going to bother trying to "date" or even meet them. I never got mad, went off etc. I treated it like pictures on a screen that I'd just send out ridiculous emails to, chat quick and then BS on the phone. I already knew the chicks HAD to be messed up to be on there. And time and time again I heard it ALL. The few I met that seemed ok and were very attractive? Every one was a screwball.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Big_Five_personality_traits
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
This is what I was thinking. It's not what she says she doesn't want that is a turn off. It's the way she goes about her approach to attracting a man. A lot of women come across as being impossible to please and have you thinking you'd be walking on eggshells trying to get somewhere with them.
It really is though. And I'm sure OLD can be the same sh1thole for chicks with a majority of dudes on there. Though when I'd see them "complain" I'd LOL because if it were that "bad" for chicks they'd LEAVE, yet you'd see them on there for months if not years. You could literally leave OLD, check it months or even years later and still see the same faces. No surprises they're still on there "complaining".
You seriously think she's cute?
I like the THICK look as well as the FIT look. So a chick with a fat a.ss, big titties, and big thighs turns me on.
And you base this hopelessness off POF?? That's a big problem right there. You trying to find some chick of quality and substance on POF. Yet let me guess. You'll stay on there complaining about it while never leaving and going out to meet chicks at an after work happy hour in an upscale after work place.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Yeah, my view on women is admittedly not very bright, but complaining about women on pof is like complaining about how much filth you find in sewage waste. That's just where it goes.
What a woman says and what she responds to are two completely, polar opposite, different things.
I agree with you. This is one self centered entitled *****. No one is good enough for her. crap she is a mess. Any way, try not to be angry about it. She is the one that will wallow in self pity til the day she dies. She sucks. She will always wonder why she cant get a good guy. Never realizing that she is the problem. Move on bro, dont get angry.
I think she is attractive, yes. Based on her profile, i agree, she's def got issues and I see how she's going to attract the kind of man she says she wants to stay away from her.
Word. Dont get angry about the low quality chicks on pof. At least, dont actually feel any emotions over it. It's just such a waste of time to invest like that on a bleak OLD situation.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.