"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

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chick has "friend"

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what is the most effective way to approach getting a girl with a 'friend'. as she said, they just started kinda seeing each other. from what she's said, he sounds like your typical afc.

so, it's not like they're bf/gf. so, what are some good tips to show i'm interested while still being respectful to her current situation?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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c'mon....anyone with experience??
 
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If a girl gives you hints that she is unavailable to you, then she is unavailable to you. The most you can do is DISPLAY your interest, take REJECTION if she is going to give it to you, and DEAL with it.

Basically, ask for her number, ask her on a date, go in for a kiss, ONLY IF THE DATE GOES WELL and you think the time is right. Any rejection at any point simply means she's not interested and that's the end of it.

But the truth is, if she mentions a "FRIEND," without you asking, then it's just a sign that she isn't interested. But the above is the only true way to find out. I mean, would you bring up a female "FRIEND" that you weren't official with if you were interested in a girl macking on you? Of course not.

And if you did ask if she was with somebody, then bad move on your part. If anything ask, "Are you single?" for a more straightforward answer. In this case, she would have answered yes, and that would be the end to it.

Ask her on the date. Work it from there. Forget her interests, forget her priorities, go with yours until you can sense her real interest. Then you can decide to back off or proceed.
 
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f*ck your friend

You give up way too easy, just "seeing each other" doesn't mean sh!t, it's obviously not serious and she's testing your interest. If you back off when she mentions another guy, it shows that you're a wuss and are afraid to compete for what you want.

My advice is, treat her like the other guy doesn't exist. Flirt with her, kino her, keep escalating things, invite her over to your place, and start it off. If she ever brings him up, tell her you're interested in her, not some loser she's seeing.

I hate to tell you this, but 9/10 HBs you approach will have a guy they're just seeing, a boyfriend, etc. You can either back off and keep masturbating, or you can compete and make the girl forget about those other losers.
 
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Re: f*ck your friend

Originally posted by MindOverMatter
You give up way too easy, just "seeing each other" doesn't mean sh!t, it's obviously not serious and she's testing your interest. If you back off when she mentions another guy, it shows that you're a wuss and are afraid to compete for what you want.

My advice is, treat her like the other guy doesn't exist. Flirt with her, kino her, keep escalating things, invite her over to your place, and start it off. If she ever brings him up, tell her you're interested in her, not some loser she's seeing.

I hate to tell you this, but 9/10 HBs you approach will have a guy they're just seeing, a boyfriend, etc. You can either back off and keep masturbating, or you can compete and make the girl forget about those other losers.
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why go through the stress of trying to "compete" with another person. there are other beautiful truly single woman who want a man.
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

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no, i did not ask her if she had a bf. here's how it went down: i told her that one of my family members had come to visit me for an occasion. i then asked her if any of her family came for the same occasion. (now, i saw her with a couple people and one looked like it could have been a bf, but he seemed pretty meek, so i thought it was her brother.)

so, she went on to mention that "person A was there, person B was there and......um..... (pause) this guy that i've kinda been seeing."

we'll see what happens...
 
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