"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Hey guys. I'm going to be a freshman at a school out east this summer. While I was there for orientation, a HB 9 had trouble opening her dorm room, as I walked by she started whining about how cold it was and how she needed her sweatshirt. Then she asked for my help. After opening the door we had a small conversation, she was turning bright red and was playing with her hair a lot. (I love it when they get all flustered.)

Anyway half-way through the conversation i got **** blocked by my friend, who was looking for me. So I said goodbye and left.

The next day I caught her staring at me from afar numerous times, which basically indicates a high IL. When I left she found me and said goodbye to me before I left.

In any other situation I would have gotten her #, but considering I live in the midwest and she lives on the East Coast I determined that it was pointless. (At least until I get back to school)

Now here's where the real question comes in.

I saw her on thefacebook.com, and under her relationship status it says single. I have not messaged her or anything, b/c I am strictly against talking online with girls I want to get with.

In this situation, considering I live halfway across the country, do you think it would be in my best interest to send her a message? Or just wait til I go to school to get with her. (PS we're in the same dorm)

Your comments are needed.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Desdinova

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In this situation, considering I live halfway across the country, do you think it would be in my best interest to send her a message?
Talk to her directly and get her number! If you send her a message out of the blue, you'll come off as creepy. Your success will be better if you do things in person. Just approach her next time you see her and initiate conversation with her. She already knows you exist.
 

MidnightResistance

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So what if it's a LDR. Make her a booty call.
 

cyjay201

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Originally posted by Guitar_Whizz
You should be posting in the high school forum.
Yeah I should be, but you know what i noticed? The advice from there is not nearly as high caliber as the advice is from here. So forgive me if I'm "under-aged" and not allowed to post on these boards...:down:

Desdinova, thanks. That's what I was thinking, and I will see her around a lot when college starts.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Originally posted by Guitar_Whizz
You should be posting in the high school forum.
Sounds to me like he's discussing college matters - orientation, dorm rooms, thefacebook... :rolleyes: Des's advice is spot-on.
 
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