"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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whats up dudes... I need some advice from you experts and expert to be's. I found out that this girl at work really digs me, like has been talking to all my coworkers about me non-stop and to the point of almost obsessing over me... now I know how to handle it when a girl likes me, but not to this god damn degree.... she's on my nuts big time, and I'm hoping thats where she stays, if you know what i'm saying... because I don't wan tto get into a relationship, just want some cooch.

Well heres the problem... since she's so damn into me it kind of freaks me out and makes me nervous... like the opportunity is so easy but I'm afraid i'll **** it up... as weird as it sounds I'm usually better at talking to girls when they dont like me or slightly do. I tend to get nervous because I know I'm on her mind and everything I do shes interpreting... How should I play my game with her? I don't want to date her just get what I need.

Thanks!!!!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Tell her exactly what you want. WHOA, MIND BLOWING! Calm down, I know its out there, but bear with me. ^_^

Just sit her down, tell her that you've figured out that she's crazy about you, and tell her how you want to handle it. Say what you told us. "I don't want a relationship right now, but we could be friends with benefits. If that's ok with you, gimme your number and we'll hook up for some nookie later." If she goes with it, great. If not, oh well.

Simple.
 

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I mean I don't want to tell her straight up that i'm not interested because I don't want to crush her heart... I want to get some then just gradually take it to the friend zone or leave it at a safe place for myself where i can keep gettin it.
 

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I never said to tell her you aren't interested. YOU ARE INTERESTED! lol.

I just said to be honest. You don't have to be brutal about it. Just say how you aren't looking for a relationship, which you aren't. Then offer the alternative of friends with benefits, and see how she takes it.

And btw, you'd crush her heart so much worse if you lied to her just to get some snatch. Trust me, be honest and straightforward. Showing you have the balls to ask for what you want will be a major turn-on for her.
 
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ohhh my gawd... dude.. are u kidding?????

THIS IS THE CORRECT ANSWER>>>

Quickly (as soon as possible) take her on a date. (i.e. dinner where you can talk) .. the reason sooner then later is cause if she is obsessing then there are high chances you wont live up to her expectations or something will go wrong, so you have to squash that over dinner...

over dinner just tell her something like this "I just got out of a long term relatinship and I am not going to be ready to be in another one for a long time, so for now I am just looking to meet people and have fun" simple and sweet.. makes you sound like a good guy, i.e. its not that you just want to get the cooch, its that you just not ready for a relationship, .. then stop right there and change the conversation to something random like "so do you like movies... what you do in spare time bla bla bla" i.e. get off the subject.. in back of her mind, as night goes by she will come to grasp that your no longer relationship material and as alcohol starts to hit you might get the cooch that night or sometime real soon with her already prepped up for "fun" only scenario :)
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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you like necro huh his so cool! just rap her some of edge play and shell be beggin for it, lol nah but it would be funny and she might dig it
 
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