"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Chick at work, and a few questions

MainDroite

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So there's this french girl working at some cafe on my campus. She smiles at me a lot and maintains eye contact for a very very long time. I'm afraid of asking her out (not that I usually am) because there's always just so many people around. I don't have the time to just go and sit at the cafe until I find her unsurrounded. Thoughts?

Also, what are the thoughts here on using palm-reading to get a chick's attention? Or magic tricks?

Do you ever "prepare" for a date? If, let's say, you know the girl is studying chinese, are you gonna do a bit of reading on the subject just to be sure of having something to talk about?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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f283000

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MainDroite said:
Also, what are the thoughts here on using palm-reading to get a chick's attention? Or magic tricks?
How about you work on your people skills by opening random strangers/girls? Building your confidence doing that will help you a lot more in the long run than learning to do magic tricks. Everybody and their grandma has seen the mystery show on vh1 girls are not stupid they know what you're trying to pull.

You think girls don't know what a canned opener with the obligatory magic trick/palm reading is? They've seen the show ;)
Do you ever "prepare" for a date? If, let's say, you know the girl is studying chinese, are you gonna do a bit of reading on the subject just to be sure of having something to talk about?
NEVER DO THIS!

I am guilty of this too. Once I found out about a certain type of book series a girl liked. I did my research online, the next day i started a chat with her about it and told her how much i liked bla bla bla even though I never even read a page of those books!

In fact I used to do this a lot. As I spoke with girls and learned more about them I would try to build "a connection" by talking about what they liked, pretending i liked those things too etc etc. Guess how many girls that got me...ZERO!!

It took me a while (and lots of reading) to realize that building a "connection" doesn't mean you're building sexual attraction.

Instead of reading up on chinese why don't you talk to her about another interesting thing you know a lot about?

Remember. You say 1 interesting thing to a girl and they'll say that's interesting. Say 2 or 3 then YOU BECOME INTERESTING!

Bring sexual innuendo to your conversations, riske topics, but whatever you do don't "have a chat" with her but rather try to build attraction.

Do you really think you're the first 1 she's ever encountered that has tried to build a connection to something she likes? Girls had this trick pulled on them since they got to the dating age. You should strive not to be like her but actually be different from her. Girls like guys that are unique, interesting, different. Not another nice guy that tells her how much he loves chinese just like the other guy the week before that was also trying to get into her pants!
 

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you can connect somewhat but I agree 100% with adding in sexual innuendos and attraction builders, physical touch is a big element as well, getting friend zoned is hard to do actually LOL
 
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